i wanted to be a very good muslim but i am living in a society which is full of bidah and waswasah and i dont have any source to whom i can learn. and as a women i cant go anywhere. what should i do and can some unmarried women make Dua fo have sahlahein children?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
1) Your desire to be a good Muslim is indeed praiseworthy. Keep that desire strong and pursue it. Allah will guide you. Allah Ta’ala says in the Quran:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَكُونُوا مَعَ الصَّادِقِينَ
O you who have believed, fear Allah and be with those who are truthful.[1]
If Allah has ordered us to be in the company of the truthful, surely there must be some people around. In every environment around the world, there is good and evil. It is up to an individual to search for the good people. You may refer to Qari Haneef Jalandhari at http://tauheed-sunnat.com/category/video-ulama-scholor/qari-muhammad-haneef-jalandhari or the Ulama at Darul Uloom Karachi at http://darululoomkarachi.edu.pk/ur/ for assistance.
2) There are no restrictions or barriers between Allah Ta’ala and his creation when it comes to duas. A person is at liberty to supplicate for anything he desires or seems fit.
Allah Ta’ala mentions in the Qur’an:
وَقَالَ رَبُّكُمُ ادْعُونِي أَسْتَجِبْ لَكُمْ إِنَّ الَّذِينَ يَسْتَكْبِرُونَ عَنْ عِبَادَتِي سَيَدْخُلُونَ جَهَنَّمَ دَاخِرِينَ
And your Lord says, “Call upon Me; I will respond to you.” Indeed, those who disdain My worship will enter Hell [rendered] contemptible.[2]
Jabir Radhiallahu Anhu narrates that I heard Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam saying:
مَا مِنْ أَحَدٍ يَدْعُو بِدُعَاءٍ إِلاَّ آتَاهُ اللَّهُ مَا سَأَلَ أَوْ كَفَّ عَنْهُ مِنَ السُّوءِ مِثْلَهُ، مَا لَمْ يَدْعُ بِإِثْمٍ أَوْ قَطِيعَةِ رَحِمٍ
“There is none who utters a supplication, except that Allah gives him what he asked, or prevents evil from him that is equal to it – as long as he does not supplicate for something evil, or the cutting of ties of the womb.”[3]
You may supplicate to Allah to grant you pious and righteous children; whether you are married or unmarried. You may also recite the following dua mentioned in the Qur’an:
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
And those who say, “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.”[4]
In the meantime, until you are assisted to a valid source of knowledge, you may refer to our website which is dedicated to women on feminine related issues, idealwoman.org.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
AbdulMannan Nizami
Student Darul Iftaa
Chicago, IL, USA
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
[1] {يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَكُونُوا مَعَ الصَّادِقِينَ} [التوبة: 119]
[2] [سورة غافر او فصلت، الایة ٦٠]
[3] حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ لَهِيعَةَ، عَنْ أَبِي الزُّبَيْرِ، عَنْ جَابِرٍ، قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ: مَا مِنْ أَحَدٍ يَدْعُو بِدُعَاءٍ إِلاَّ آتَاهُ اللَّهُ مَا سَأَلَ أَوْ كَفَّ عَنْهُ مِنَ السُّوءِ مِثْلَهُ، مَا لَمْ يَدْعُ بِإِثْمٍ أَوْ قَطِيعَةِ رَحِمٍ.
وَفِي البَابِ عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ، وَعُبَادَةَ بْنِ الصَّامِتِ
[سنن الترمذي ت بشار، ج۵، ص۳۲٤، دار الغرب الاسلامی]
[4] {وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا (74)} [الفرقان: 74]