Assalamalaikum. I am biological female but since childhood I’ve felt I am a male and feel uncomfortable living as a girl. I’ve tried to change this but it didn’t work. This is making it very hard for me to be happy and I’m trying so hard not to commit suicide. Some people say it’s okay to transition in severe cases of gender dysphoria. Doctors told me I should transition too. There are some biological links that have shown to play a role in this. There is no proven way to fix this problem other than by transitioning, and most attempts to do so cause harm and are ineffective. I do not want to simply act like a man, I want to be one. 4 of the 5 aspects of biological sex can be changed. The one that can’t is chromosomes, which are considered a minor factor and males with XX chromosomes are considered male. Furthermore, most people including myself don’t even know their chromosomes for sure, so they’re quite irrelevant. I’m willing to avoid my desire to marry a woman even if I transition (if transitioning is allowed, please let me know if marriage is). I know that without certain medical advancements that may take around 10 years, I won’t be able to father children, and I am okay with that. Nearly no one with severe early onset gender dysphoria and gender incongruence regrets their decision to transition, regrets are mostly in cases of young people, or mild gender dysphoria, so I know this choice would make me happy, but the problem is it might not be allowed in Islam. I know this might be seen as an unnecessary body change, but for me it’s very important. Thanks for your time may Allab bless you for your answer.
I have the following questions, I would really appreciate if it is answered and emailed back to me by a qualified islamic scholar.
1. Lets say, a muslim (while he is a muslim) intent to enter islam by saying la ilaha illallah after wishfully committing major shirk and/or major kufr. If he dies before saying la ilaha illallah (or before entering islam), will he die as a muslim and will he ever enter paradise? Also, can anyone reenter/enter islam more than once after committing major shirk and major kufr? (Also, is there a number after when one cannot renter islam?) Please, clarify each point.
2. Lets say there is multiple fatwa exists or given in an issue. If one chooses one fatwa from the fatwas out of his own desire, does he goes outside of islam? Also, will he be given any reward for the deed (choosing fatwa out of his own desire)?
3. Lets say there is multiple commentary exists for a verse of Quran or for a hadith of prophet Muhammad from different scholars. If a person chooses a commentary from a scholar based on his own desire and believes in it, does he goes outside islam? Also, will he be given any reward for the deed (choosing scholar’s commentary out of his own desire)?
4. I heard a hadith that ignorance person is forgiven. Lets say I am ignorant on purpose. In other words, I have a chance/opportunity to learn, but I did not learn ( because I wanted to remain ignorant on that matter), in that case will my ignorance be forgiven?
5. Lets say I committed a major shirk or major kufr out of ignorance. But I had a chance to learn whether something I did was major shirk/kufr or not, but I did not learn ( because I wanted to remain ignorant on that matter). In that case Will Allah punish me/ hold me accountable for both committing the shirk (or kufr) and not knowing, or Allah will punish me/ hold me accountable just for my ignorance? Or he will punish me for none because of my ignorance? Will I Go to heaven?
I am aware that according to the majority of scholars, they would see it as prohibited (Shafi’i and Maliki schools).
Alhamdulillah I don’t do it, but I would just like to know the ruling.
I am not exactly aware of the Hanafi position on it although I believe that according to our school it would be allowed under certain conditions but otherwise unlawful. Please tell me the position of the Hanafi School.
I have read on wikipedia that apparently Ibn Nujaym رحمهم الله wrote that it is Makruh (not Haram) and that this is the opinion in Fataawaa Al Walwaaljiyya.
Also, there’s an opinion in the Hanbali school allowing it and similarly Ibn Hazm and ‘Allama Shawkaani رحمهم الله did not believe it to be prohibited. And Allah سبحانه و تعالى knows best.
I came across a number of Ahadith in Musannaf Abd al Razzaq indicating to the permissibility of it:
‘Ata Ibn Abi Rabah disliked it. Ibn ‘Abbas said it was better to marry a slave girl but it was better than Zina. Jabir bin Zaid saw it as permissible and a similar view is also narrated from Ibn Abbas. Mujahid said more or less that those who came before us used to COMMAND their Shabab to do it, by doing this they abstain from Zina. It is narrated that Al Hasan Al Basri gave Rukhsa in it. ‘Amr ibn Dinar said that he doesn’t see a problem with it.
(Musannaf Abd al Razzaq 14386, 14388-14396)
I await your answer
If your wife say’s she does not want to have intercourse with you what are the valid reasons, And in such cases what should one do? on the other hand if I cannot satisfy her sexual desire even with intercourse, is it in her right to leave me even though I have not treated her bad in any shape or form.
Hi, I am really interested in Islam and in being a muslim, however, I do have some questions if this is ok. Hello, I am really interest in Islam and there is so much peace in it. But There are few things confusing me. Why are men favoured with rewads?. For example, I am reading on Islamic websites that God favours men over women in paradise and he will reward them more, because he grants them a reward that is not granted to women which is having many beautiful spouses, but women only have one spouse and there is one an exlusive reward for men but no exclusive rewards to women. From this my understanding it that all rewards granted to women are granted to men, but not all rewards granted to men are given to women, or at least they are not rewarded as much as men for their worship. So for example, if a man and a woman both have 10000 deeds, lets say each gets the same number and quality of palace, garden, rivers, so in all of that they are equal, but the man will be given many wives (for example 10) and the women is given only one husband, so even though both have the same level of piety, the man got given more rewards than the woman by 9. Does the woman get compensate with more of another form or reward? Otherwise, who can it be justice that even though both have the same number of good deeds the man got more?
Hanafi: I have strong desires, almost crippling, i want to do ‘istimna, I am aware is haram, is there a rule, which is HALAL, for me to follow/switch to, without fatwa shopping, or doing something haram. I can’t marry yet, and have quit Istimna for about 2 months so far.
Assalamualaykum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh
I am struggling to control my sexual desires. I know masturbation is wrong but can’t stop it totally. Mostly daydreaming about sex, meaning I get sexual images in my mind. I feel sometimes my sexual arousal and images happen automatically without I am doing anything. Sometimes it happens suddenly. Its so bad it even happens during the salah. Because of this I require ghusl, I am too lazy to have ghusl so I stop praying salah. Some days I am free from it this is when I do manage to pray salah. I try to fast here and there but I can’t do it always because of my health problems. I also don’t have option to get married because of my financial and health problems. I don’t watch porn but struggle to keep my gaze down. Could you please offer some religious advise? Can I continue praying if happens during salah?
What is the ruling of a wife controlling a husband’s hand whilst masturbating her? I have heard if the husband does this himself it is permissible but what if the wife holds his hand because if she doesn’t, he doesn’t fulfil the desire?
1) What does Allah mean in Quran, by saying something like some people takes their own desire as God?
2) Does someone go outside of islam by Having hope in something or someone more than Allah?Also, does someone go outside of islam if he/she believes that she/he should have more hope in something/someone other than Allah?
3) Can I intent for doing multiple deeds (for example, I intent to a bad deed first, then I will do a good deed. In this case, I intent to do 2 deeds, first doing the bad deed then doing the good deed). Or Is it something like, for example: I can intent for only one deed at a time in islam (regardless of good or bad)? is there a maximum number of deeds that I can intent for at once?
4) If someone says the shahada in order to enter islam, does it count as a good deed?( I am talking about a scenario, where someone is committing major kufr/major shirk (intentionally or unintentionally or both), then he enters islam by saying the shahada). So, each time he enters islam by saying the shahada, in this each time it will be counted as a good deed?
5) If I interpret and follow the Quran and hadith based on my own opinion and disregard the scholars of islam, do I go outside of islam?
6) What if someone rejects a sahih or hasan or weak hadith saying if prophet Muhammad said in front of him, he would accept it. Does this person goes outside of islam? (This person also believes that prophet Muhammad is a messenger of God).
7) What if someone rejects a sahih or hasan or weak hadith of prophet Muhammad that explains the Quran (I mean the hadiths that is doing the tafsir of the verses of the Quran) saying if prophet Muhammad said in front of him, he would accept it. Does this person goes outside of islam? (This person also believes that prophet Muhammad is a messenger of God).
8) By rejecting ijma, opinions of scholars, opinion of companion of prophet Muhammad, opinion of sahaba, tabeyin, tabe-tabeyin; you don’t go outside of islam, right? All you have to do is just obey the Quran and prophet Muhammad? Other than prophet Muhammad, anybody’s opinion can be rejected, right? As we know every human makes mistake.
9) I have heard a hadith which says: prophet Muhammad advised to follow the truth. If this is not possible, then follow what is closer to the truth. If this is not possible, then fear Allah as much as you can. Can you please correct me in wording of this hadith and let me know which book of hadith contains this hadith with the hadith number. Also, let me know if its hasan or weak.
10) We don’t have to follow weak hadiths, right? It is not fard, but if we follow, we get reward?
I have recently, alhamdulillah started wearing full hijaab, which of course includes the niqaab, and i have realised that as i walk down the street, I walk with a lot of confidance and pride; proud of the fact that I am a muslim woman in hijaab, unafraid of the western world. I do not want to appear a weak, submissive stereotype of a Muslim Woman, which is stopping me from walking with my gaze down, as I should be.
I feel, however that this pride and confidance is not right somehow, and that it is preventing me from feeling modest, and having humility, traits of a good muslim woman… please can you tell me the correct way of how a muslim woman should walk and behave when out in public.
What has the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, said about women in hijaab, pride and the way they conduct themselves.