Question: during a dispute with my wife. I said to her”I can’t tolerate you hollering at me all the time.” At the time I thought in my mind”consider yourself divorced.” I didn’t utter these words. Would this constitute divorce?
Answer: this would not constitute divorce as you merely thought the phrase”consider yourself divorced”and did not say it. However, you should be careful in future not to even bring such thoughts to your mind as there is a very short distance between thinking something and saying it.
Question: subsequently that dispute led me to take one hour in the shower after which I walked out of the house. I returned at 11:30 PM. Having not read any salah in the day, partly because I was angry and mostly because I thought how can I tarnish any of my ibadah by wearing glasses with the name Ted Baker on it. In addition I know it is undesirable for man to wear yellow and hence I thought my other pair of glasses contain approximately 20% yellow colour in each arm. So how can I read salah and hope to obtain proximity to Allah. Similarly, I thought I can’t wear contact lenses because I don’t know whether the solution they come from contains alcohol. When I returned home at night. My father asked me whether I would read Fajr at 1:30 AM and go to sleep wake up at 4:30 AM. I thought I don’t intend to pray but verbally told myself thinking this is bad. I ended up acting on my intention by not paying Fajr. Would this be kufr?
Answer: this would not constitute kufr, as though praying salah, is a very important part of Islam, one does not become kafir by intentionally leaving it. It seems that you suffer from doubts in many things such as the name “Ted Baker” being on your glasses or the amount of yellow on your clothes. You should remember that these are wasawis from Shaytan. He uses them to turn you away from performing good deeds. In the case you mention, he succeeded in turning you away from your salah on the pretext of these doubts. Your salah would have been sahih had you performed it whilst wearing your glasses and your yellow clothes. You should try and avoid thinking too much about such minutiae. The only person that can help you in this is yourself. Try not to make things too difficult for yourself, and if you ever encounter a situation where the option is to pray or not to pray the answer is almost invariably to pray.
Question: my wife sent me and SMS at 11 PM saying please come home. I replied”no”. Would this constitute a divorce? Adhan
Answer: this would not constitute a divorce.