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I got recently divorced. My wife is completely being misguided and I tried my level best to bring her through various sources. She is not ready to live with my parents and has been falsely lodging complaints in police stations. After some periods, we have defended our selves strongly and now they want us to mutually close up the relations. 

Now my questions is what is right way of calculating the iddat amount for her. 

Additionally they are demanding for the expenses incurred in the marriage from their end. We have specifically not demanded any thing during marriage, infact they also accept the same from their end and it ws known among all relatives also from both of the sides. 

Now my questions is I am not worried about giving them their expenses but I am worried for the point that will it be Sin for me or her if I give or she accept it respectively.

Also, Mahr which is her complete right, I will InshaAllah give it to her with full respect.

Please guide me. May Allah help us in making the right decision for both of us and guide us on the right path.

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

What do you mean when you said ” Now my questions is what is right way of calculating the iddat amount for her.”?

Were you referring to the expenses that need to be provided for your wife during her iddah period? Or, were you inquiring about how long will her iddah be, and how will it be calculated? 

In principal, your wife’s iddah started as soon as you gave her a divorce. During this period the wife has to live in the same house where she received the divorce. The iddah period will be three menstrual cycles if she experiences menses, or three lunar months if she does not experience menses [1]. It is the responsibility of the husband to provide the wife with shelter (housing), food and clothing during iddah[2]. If the husband fails to provide shelter, food and clothing for his divorced wife during iddah, he will be sinful. The shelter must be sufficient enough for her privacy. The food and clothing must be according to the financial means of both the husband and wife. It is advisable for the husband to be considerate to his divorced wife and offer more than just the basic requirements[3][4].

Your understanding of the mahr being her right is correct. If the marriage was consummated or you enjoyed isolation with her, then the she is entitled to the full amount of the mahr.

Furthermore, you refer to demanding return of the marriage expenses. According to Shariah, the woman’s party is not entitled to the return of the expenses incurred in the marriage. However, if you wish to compensate them voluntarily and without any obligation upon you, you may do so. This will be regarded as good and amiable gesture from your side for which you will be rewarded.  

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Abdullah Ghadai

Student Darul Iftaa
Michigan, U.S.A 

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.


[1] تبيين الحقائق شرح كنز الدقائق وحاشية الشلبي (3/ 26)

قَالَ – رَحِمَهُ اللَّهُ – (عِدَّةُ الْحُرَّةِ لِلطَّلَاقِ أَوْ الْفَسْخِ ثَلَاثَةُ أَقْرَاءٍ أَيْ حِيَضٍ) أَيْ إذَا طَلُقَتْ الْحُرَّةُ أَوْ وَقَعَتْ الْفُرْقَةُ بَيْنَهُمَا بِغَيْرِ طَلَاقٍ فَعِدَّتُهَا ثَلَاثَةُ قُرُوءٍ إنْ كَانَتْ مِنْ ذَوَاتِ الْحَيْضِ لِقَوْلِهِ تَعَالَى {وَالْمُطَلَّقَاتُ يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنْفُسِهِنَّ ثَلاثَةَ قُرُوءٍ} [البقرة: 228]

[2] الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي (2/ 285)

 النفقة واجبة للزوجة على زوجها مسلمة كانت أو كافرة إذا سلمت نفسها إلى منزله فعليه نفقتها وكسوتها وسكناها ” والأصل في ذلك قوله تعالى: {لِيُنْفِقْ ذُو سَعَةٍ مِنْ سَعَتِهِ} [الطلاق: من الآية7] وقوله تعالى: {وَعَلَى الْمَوْلُودِ لَهُ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ}

[3] الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي (2/ 288)

وعلى الزوج أن يسكنها في دار مفردة ليس فيها أحد من أهله إلا أن تختار ذلك ” لأن السكنى من كفايتها فتجب لها

[4] الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي (2/ 285)

 ويعتبر في ذلك حالهما جميعا ” قال العبد الضعيف وهذا اختيار الخصاف وعليه الفتوى وتفسيره أنهما إذا كانا موسرين تجب نفقة اليسار وإن كانا معسرين فنفقة الإعسار وإن كانت معسرة والزوج موسرا فنفقتها دون نفقة الموسرات وفوق نفقة المعسرات وقال الكرخي رحمه الله يعتبر حال الزوج وهو قول الشافعي رحمه الله لقوله تعالى: {لِيُنْفِقْ ذُو سَعَةٍ مِنْ سَعَتِهِ} [الطلاق: 7] .

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