I am a resident of aligarh.U.P,INDIA.i have full faith (mashallah) in all ur teachings and description. i am married to a mauritian girl( sunnimuslim,their family says they follow sunnat jamat.but they dislike jamat,wahabis,deobandis,and to the abusive extent.they follow strictly aulia-ikram,peer.they visits graves of all peers and pray to them.and also do khatam(a sort of naat programme and dinner).i am very much confused as thay called themselves sunnat jamat.please guide me upon their actions and beliefs.
The conditions mentioned by you regarding your wife indicate that she is bid’ati (innovator). Seeking help with the pirs is not the belief of Ahlus Sunnah wal-Jama?at, this is against the Holy Quran and Hadith. The Holy Quran says:
ولاتدع من دون الله مالاينفعك ولا يضرك
And besides Allah, do not call those who neither can benefit you and nor can harm you.
It is written in a Hadith that the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) taught Ibn Abbas (رضی اللہ عنہ):
اذا استعنت فا ستعن بالله
When you want to seek help, then you must ask Allah Almighty.
And, it is in Surha Fatiha:
اياك نعبدواياك نستعين
Thee do we worship, and Thine aid we seek.
You should convince your wife gently and kindly, and you yourself should study the book: Muntakhab Ahadith, and persuade your wife to study the same, in-sha-Allah her dogmas will be rectified.
Allah (Subhana Wa Ta’ala) knows Best
Darul Uloom Deoband