I am a 25 year old boy and I like one of my distant cousin who works in a metro city in India. I want to marry her as she is religious, loving, caring and perfect in each way as per my and my parents’ requirements. The problem is that I tried to seek my parents’ permission and realized that they are not agreeing to this proposal. The girl’s father is my father’s maternal cousin but they are very poor and they barely manage through help from other relatives. They do not have any income of their own and the girl lives alone in the city where she works for past one year. I do not feel anything wrong with that as I have been in touch with her through email and phone and I feel she is best for me in all aspects. I have talked to her parents as well and there seems to be no other problem. I want to help their family too in a way by marrying her. I just do not know if I should try to persuade my parents further for this or let it go? Please advise.
Answer:
(Fatwa: 254/L=167/TL=1433)
Your thinking is correct. If you marry that girl it shall be a support for her. However, before marriage try to motivate your parents in good manner and do not marry her without their consent. Also note that she is a strange girl for you till you marry her and it is not right to have contact with a strange girl through email or phone etc and talk her frankly.
Allah (Subhana Wa Ta’ala) knows Best
Darul Ifta,
Darul Uloom Deoband