Assalāmualaikum. Please help me as I am in a great problem. Six years ago, my nikāh took place without the permission of our parents. Sometimes we even live together without our parents knowing. However, since three months we have not seen each other. My parents and his parents do have an idea that we love each other. Due to the torture and frustration in my home, I asked my husband and forced him to leave me because I felt as if I ditched my parents for him. I continuously forced him to give me talāq as he was unable to convince his parents to accept me as his wife. My husband was not at all ready to leave me but I cried and forced him on the mobile to leave me.
We both know and accept that he did not have any intention of talāq. However I forced him and after my continuous begging he finally said, “O.K. talāq, talāq, talāq, talāq”. Then he disconnected my call because he had never even thought about leaving me. Now he says that he had no intention at all to divorce me. Whatever had happened, it’s due to our parents and my husband had no intention to divorce me. Also, now his parents are ready to accept me. Please advise me as to what I should do now. If my situation comes for halālah, I can do nikāh with another man, but I can’t tell my parents about this matter and neither do I have enough time for my iddāh.
How can I tell my parents my husband had no intention of divorcing me. Even till today, he calls me and reacts as my husband. The situation is the same with me. I am regretting that I tortured my husband on the mobile to divorce me even though he could never dream of divorcing me his whole life. And I cannot marry another man and sleep with him. Please, suggest to me any kaffārah for myself or my husband so that we cannot be separated. Please help me as I cannot see any other man instead of my husband and my husband cannot see any other girl instead of me. Please suggest to me a way so that I can be with by beloved husband and he can be with me.
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
In normal circumstances, if the husband utters the word talāq three times, it automatically results in an at-talāq al-mughalladha (irrevocable divorce). [1] [2] [3] Hence, the nikāh terminates immediately, and the married couple is no longer husband and wife. However, since this is an intricate matter, substantial information has to be gathered regarding the marriage before a ruling is issued. [4] Therefore, we advise you to discuss the matter with local Ulema and seek a ruling from them.
Nevertheless, submit yourself to the will and decree of Allāh Taāla. He is All-Knowing , All-Wise, and All-Loving. Many a times, we are faced with trials and tribulations, assuming that they are harmful for us. However, through the wisdom and doing of Allāh Taālā they turn out to be beneficial. Hence, whatever the outcome may be, make an amendment to adhere to the Law of Allāh. In this submission and obedience rests everlasting peace, bliss, and happiness. Allāh the Almighty says:
“The one who fears Allah for him Allāh brings forth a way out, and gives him provision (of his needs) from where he does not even imagine. (Qurān 65/1-2)[5]
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mawlana Abdul Azeem bin Abdur Rahman,
Student Darul Iftaa
US
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Husain Kadodia.
www.daruliftaa.net
[1] (قَوْلُهُ كَرَّرَ لَفْظَ الطَّلَاقِ) بِأَنْ قَالَ لِلْمَدْخُولَةِ: أَنْتِ طَالِقٌ أَنْتِ طَالِقٌ أَوْ قَدْ طَلَّقْتُكِ قَدْ طَلَّقْتُكِ أَوْ أَنْتِ طَالِقٌ قَدْ طَلَّقْتُك أَوْ أَنْتِ طَالِقٌ وَأَنْتِ طَالِقٌ، وَإِذَا قَالَ: أَنْتِ طَالِقٌ ثُمَّ قِيلَ لَهُ مَا قُلْتُ؟ فَقَالَ: قَدْ طَلَّقْتُهَا أَوْ قُلْتُ هِيَ طَالِقٌ فَهِيَ طَالِقٌ وَاحِدَةً لِأَنَّهُ جَوَابٌ، كَذَا فِي كَافِي الْحَاكِمِ (قَوْلُهُ وَإِنْ نَوَى التَّأْكِيدَ دِينَ) أَيْ وَوَقَعَ الْكُلُّ قَضَاءً، وَكَذَا إذَا طَلَّقَ أَشْبَاهَ: أَيْ بِأَنْ لَمْ يَنْوِ اسْتِئْنَافًا وَلَا تَأْكِيدًا لِأَنَّ الْأَصْلَ عَدَمُ التَّأْكِيدِ
[2] فتاوي محمودية, ج 18, ص 330: مكتبة محمودية
[3] Aap Ke Masāil Aur Un Kā Hal, Vol. 5, Pg. 219; Maktabah Ludhyānwī
[4] (قَوْلُهُ وَإِنْ فَرَّقَ بِوَصْفٍ) نَحْوِ أَنْتِ طَالِقٌ وَاحِدَةً وَوَاحِدَةً وَوَاحِدَةً، أَوْ خَبَرٍ نَحْوِ: أَنْتِ طَالِقٌ طَالِقٌ طَالِقٌ، أَوْ أَجْمَلَ نَحْوُ: أَنْتِ طَالِقٌ أَنْتِ طَالِقٌ أَنْتِ طَالِقٌ ح، وَمِثْلُهُ فِي شَرْحِ الْمُلْتَقَى.
(قَوْلُهُ بِعَطْفٍ) أَيْ فِي الثَّلَاثَةِ سَوَاءٌ كَانَ بِالْوَاوِ أَوْ الْفَاءِ أَوْ ثُمَّ أَوْ بَلْ ح وَسَيَذْكُرُ الْمُصَنِّفُ مَسْأَلَةَ الْعَطْفِ مُنَجَّزَةً وَمُعَلَّقَةً مَعَ تَفْصِيلٍ فِي الْمُعَلَّقَةِ (قَوْلُهُ أَوْ غَيْرِهِ) الْأَوْلَى أَوْ دُونَهُ ط (قَوْلُهُ بَانَتْ بِالْأُولَى) أَيْ قَبْلَ الْفَرَاغِ مِنْ الْكَلَامِ الثَّانِي عِنْدَ أَبِي يُوسُفَ وَعِنْدَ مُحَمَّدٍ بَعْدَهُ لِجَوَازِ أَنْ يُلْحِقَ بِكَلَامِهِ شَرْطًا أَوْ اسْتِثْنَاءً وَرَجَّحَ السَّرَخْسِيُّ الْأَوَّلَ وَالْخِلَافُ عِنْدَ الْعَطْفِ بِالْوَاوِ وَثَمَرَتُهُ فِيمَنْ مَاتَتْ قَبْلَ فَرَاغِهِ مِنْ الثَّانِي وَقَعَ عِنْدَ أَبِي يُوسُفَ لَا عِنْدَ مُحَمَّدٍ وَتَمَامُهُ فِي الْبَحْرِ وَالنَّهْرِ (قَوْلُهُ وَلِذَا) أَيْ لِكَوْنِهَا بَانَتْ لَا إلَى عِدَّةٍ ح (قَوْلُهُ لَمْ تَقَعْ الثَّانِيَةُ) الْمُرَادُ بِهَا مَا بَعْدَ الْأُولَى، فَيَشْمَلُ الثَّالِثَةَ (قَوْلُهُ بِخِلَافِ الْمَوْطُوءَةِ) أَيْ وَلَوْ حُكْمًا كَالْمُخْتَلَى بِهَا فَإِنَّهَا كَالْمَوْطُوءَةِ فِي لُزُومِ الْعِدَّةِ، وَكَذَا فِي وُقُوعِ طَلَاقٍ بَائِنٍ آخَرَ فِي عِدَّتِهَا، وَقِيلَ لَا يَقَعُ وَالصَّوَابُ الْأَوَّلُ كَمَا مَرَّ فِي بَابِ الْمَهْرِ نَظْمًا وَأَوْضَحْنَاهُ هُنَاكَ (قَوْلُهُ حَيْثُ يَقَعُ الْكُلُّ)
(رد المحتار, ج 3, ص 286: سعيد)
[5] وَمَنْ يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَلْ لَهُ مَخْرَجًا o وَيَرْزُقْهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لَا يَحْتَسِبُ (سورة الطلاق, رقم الاية 1-2)