Assalam alaikum, Im constantly suspicious about my husbands whereabouts, im driving myself crazy thinking that he’s cheating on me.I always seem to find myself unattractive, and comparing myself with the women that my husband works with. I wear a full hijab, and sometimes my husband takes advantage of that, saying that no one will find me attractive anyway. I even had a dream of him cheating on me a couple of times. This is causing so much problems between my husband and I, and our 5 kids are always trying to stop us from fighting. please help me with some Du’aa so I can overcome my jealousy. Jazakallah Khair.
Hereunder are some advises:
1. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) advised, ‘Keep away from Zann
(Baseless doubts) as that is the biggest lie.’ Be positive in your approach.
Allah Ta’ala has granted you the most beautiful asset – the beauty of Imaan.
You safeguard your physical beauty only for your husband. You are different
and unique from those women who leave their home. They are beautified by the
Shaytaan for all and sundry. Be rest assured and your husband appreciates
the one and solely dedicated to him.
2. If both of you are not partaking meals from one plate, start eating in
one plate. This will also create Mahabbat.
3. As soon as he comes home; a) Meet him with a cheerful face, b) Beautify
and perfume yourself, c) Start with good news and delay any bad news until
he has rested, d) Receive him with loving sentences, e) Make an effort for
excellence of the food and having it ready on time.
4. Start collective recitation of the Kitaab, ‘Fadhaail-e-Aamaal’ by
Shaykhul Hadith Moulana Zakariyyah – it has proved effective.
5. Du’aas to remove restlessness and grief, ‘Yaa Hayy, Yaa Qayyoom, bi
rahmatika astagheeth’. Hadhrat Anas ibn Maalik (RA) narrates that whenever
Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) was overcame with any restlessness
or sorrow he would read the above Du’aa.
6. For Muhabbat (love and affection) between the husband and wife, recite
1000 times ‘Yaa Wadood’.
Note: Jealousy is a sign for a wife’s love for her husband but it should be
kept within the limits of Islam.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai