My question is that I am a doctor and i have a colleague whom i love and she loves me also .. Can we eat together in suhoor for taking fast in Ramadan as i have been told that she is na mehram and no fast will be accepted by Allah in such regard .The thing i want to make clear is that only we share food and a table in public place to eat just ..
KINDLY help me in this regard.
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Brother in Islam,
At the outset, one should understand that it is not permissible to unnecessarily talk/chat to a Non-Mahram. It is strictly forbidden to date and enter into an illicit relationship. To have an extra marital affair is a major sin. That incurs the wrath and anger of Allah Ta’ala.
Allah Ta’ala says in the Quraan:
وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَا إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا
Translation: “And do not even go close to adultery. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and it is an evil way.”
(Surah Al-Israa, Aayah 32)
It is mentioned in a Hadeeth:
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ “ لاَ يَزْنِي الزَّانِي حِينَ يَزْنِي وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ وَلاَ يَسْرِقُ حِينَ يَسْرِقُ وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ وَلاَ يَشْرَبُ الْخَمْرَ حِينَ يَشْرَبُهَا وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ وَالتَّوْبَةُ مَعْرُوضَةٌ بَعْدُ
Translation: A fornicator who fornicates is not a believer as long as he commits fornication, and no one who steals is a believer as long as he commits theft, and no one who drinks wine is a believer as long as he drinks it, and repentance may be accepted after that.
(Saheeh Al-Muslim, Kitaab Al-Imaan)
Islam not only prohibits Zina, but also closes all the possible avenues leading to Zina. This is achieved by prohibiting every step and means leading to stimulating and aggravating desires.
Ahmad Shawki, the famed poet has succinctly described the end result of intermingling with non-Mahrams in the following couplet:
نـظـرة فابتسامة فسلام فـكـلام فـمـوعد فـلـقـاء
Translation: A glance, a smile then a greeting, a word, a promise then a meeting
Brother, you state that both of you love each other. The solution to your problem is simple.
If you sincerely love her, then you should get married to her. In that way, your colleague will become your wife and she will be Halaal for you.
If you partake Sehri with a Non-Mahram, your fast will still be valid. However, it will be void of Baraakah and reward.
We advise you to make sincere Tawbah and Istighfaar for the sin you are committing and make a firm resolve never to involve yourself in an illicit relationship. You should cut off all ties with your colleague. You should understand that your colleague is a Non-Mahram and Haraam for you until you do not get married to her.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Muhammad I.V Patel
Student Darul Iftaa
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
This answer was collected from Askimam.org, which is operated under the supervision of Mufti Ebrahim Desai from South Africa.