As-Salam-U-Alaikum If a Muslim brother proposes to a Muslim girl and her wali and wali gives his consent but tells the muslim brother to send his parents to finalize things. But when he talked to his parents, they refused. Then they agreed to look at the matter with justice. He gave them their word that he’ll do whatever they decide. He tried to convince them. All the family members atlast agreed except his father who is not ready to marry his son out of the family and caste. Now muslim brother knows that his parents decision is not just and their objections are not valid according to Shariah. He likes the girl for religion as well. He still wants to marry her. He already tried to convince his parents for 15 months.Can he again talk to his parents even after their decision? What if they still refuse on social rather than religious points? What is more Saleh (good) in Shariah…..that he goes ahead and marry the girl after trying his best to convince his parents or stick to his promise to his parents knowing that their objections are not valid? Will he be doing injustice to the girl? Is his promise to his parents in this matter valid according to Shariah? Jazak Allah Khair
According to Shari’ah, every adult has an independent right to choose
his/her marriage partner. In view of the above ruling, you may marry the
girl in question. However, you should also take cognisance of the
consequences of the marriage as your father disagrees for you to marry the
girl.
In our experiences in similar cases, parents follow their emotions and even
disown their sons, thus, making life miserable for their sons. If you might
face the similar response, you should ponder whether you will be able to
bear such difficulties and weigh those possible difficulties with your
present grief. We also suggest you inform your father about your intentions
and that you will be make Istikhaara (seek divine guidance) on the matter as
that is the order of Shari’ah. Somewhere on this site, search ‘istikhaara’
(without quotes)
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
FATWA DEPT.