i would like to know how to divorce my wife, we are living seperatley and have one child. I see my child on a regular basis and sometimes i have spent the night at my wifes house. as a result she is again pregnant and it wasnt planned. we have decided that continuing the marriage isnt an option due me living with my parents and her living in another town and constantly arguing. Can i still divorce her whilst she is pregnant and how do i it?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
You have one child and another child is on the way. This is all more the reason for you to continue the marriage. We advise both of you to set aside your emotions and let rationale prevail. Make mature decisions and adjustments in the interest of your children. If you are unable to come to mutual agreement, identify someone who could assist in that.
Remember, divorce will have its challenges as maintaining the marriage will have its challenges. However, the harms of divorce outweigh the challenges of maintaining the marriage. You may think that divorce is the solution to your problems whereas it may actually aggravate the problems. There is no greater harm and problem than depriving your children from the joint parental care. It is the right of your children that both parents sacrifice for their sake and supress your emotions.
You enquire whether you can divorce your wife and how to go about divorcing her. Your wife is carrying your child. That is a great sacrifice on her part. Pregnancy comes with psychological and biological imbalances. At this time, it is morally incumbent upon the husband to show love and compassion to his wife. Divorcing her at this stage would be wreck less and hardheartedness.
If you do decide to terminate the marriage hold on until after birth. It is possible and in fact common that the mind-set of both parents. If you issue divorce now, both of you would regret. Exercise restraint and turn to Allah Taala for courage and guidance.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Huzaifah Deedat
Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
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الأصل للشيباني ط قطر (4/ 392)
وإذا أراد الرجل أن يطلق امرأته وهي حامل فإن شاء أن يطلقها عند غرة الهلال وإن شاء ففي أي الشهر شاء، وإن شاء أن يتم ما بقي من الطلاق طلقها أخرى بعدما يمضي شهر من التطليقة الأولى، ثم يطلقها تطليقة أخرى بعدما يمضي (3) شهر آخر، فقد بانت بثلاث تطليقات، وأجلها أن تضع حملها. وهذا قول أبي حنيفة وأبي يوسف.
شرح مختصر الطحاوي للجصاص (5/ 32)
مسألة: [طلاق الآيسة والحامل]
قال: (وإذا كانت ممن لا تحيض: طلقه ا متى شاء وإن كان بعد الجماع، فلا يحتاج إلى الفصل بين الجماع والطلاق بحيضة، وكذلك الحامل”.
قال أبو بكر: وقال زفر: لا يطلقها حتى تحيض حيضة بعد الجماع، كما قالوا جميعًا في ذات الحيض إذا جامعها: أنه لا يطلقها حتى يفصل بين الجماع والطلاق بحيضة.
ووجه القول الأول: أن الفصل بين الجماع والطلاق إنما يحتاج إليه ليعلم أهي حامل أم لا؟ فتطلق طلاق الحامل أو طلاق الحائل، ويدل على ذلك: ما روي عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: “أنه أمر ابن عمر رضي الله عنهما أن يطلقها طاهرًا من غير جماع أو حاملًا
مختصر القدوري (ص: 154)
وطلاق الحامل يجوز عقيب الجماع ويطلقها للسنة ثلاثا يفصل بين كل تطليقتين بشهر
الفتاوى الهندية (8/ 63)
وَطَلَاقُ الْحَامِلِ يَجُوزُ عَقِيبَ الْجِمَاعِ وَيُطَلِّقُهَا لِلسُّنَّةِ ثَلَاثًا يَفْصِلُ بَيْنَ كُلِّ تَطْلِيقَتَيْنِ بِشَهْرٍ عِنْدَ أَبِي حَنِيفَةَ وَأَبِي يُوسُفَ – رَحِمَهُمَا اللَّهُ تَعَالَى – كَذَا فِي الْهِدَايَةِ