Please could you stipulate the ruling for:- the suitable metals a Muslim man can wear for a wedding ring.
ALSO
As a bride to be I would like to know who can walk with me into the wedding reception ? as my biological father has never been part of my life.
I have a step-father, step brother, male cousin (non-muslim) & 2 uncles (non-muslim). Please advise. Your urgent response will be highly appreciated.
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
A male may wear only a silver ring which weighs no more than 4.374 grams. It is not permissible for a male to wear a ring of any other metal at all or silver exceeding 4.374 grams.[1]
In your second query you mentioned “who can walk with me into the wedding reception” step father, cousin or brother. It is clear from this that your reception will be a mixed gathering which is haram and a major sin. Such practices deprive one of the mercy of Allah. We advise you to conduct your wedding in a simple way and adhere to the guidelines of Sharī’ah. You will observe the barakah of such a wedding in your life.
Hereunder, are some guidelines for a Nikāh to be in accordance with the laws of Sharia:
- Ø The present day practice of intermingling of the genders at a Nikāh is an act of sin and against Shariah.
- Ø Customs in Nikah which are contrary to the teachings and the laws of Shariah are prohibited.
- Ø Imitating the customs of non-Muslims is prohibited. For example, walking down the aisle etc.
- Ø It is totally un-Islamic for those, who do not possess the means, to incur debts in order to have grandiose weddings.
- Ø The unnecessary expenses incurred by the bride’s family in holding a feast have no basis in Shariah.
- Ø Any law of Allah Ta’āla should not be violated (e.g. allowing the salaah to become qadha, intermingling of sexes, taking loans on interest, photography, music, etc.).
- Ø The Nikah should be kept as simple as possible as it is known that simplicity is the spirit of the Sunnah. Also Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: “The Nikah that earns the most blessing is that Nikah wherein the least expenses are incurred.” (Baihaqi)
Also, it is permissible for your step-father to represent you in the Nikah.
May Allah bless your marriage with Barakah. Aameen
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Saleem Khan
Student Darul Iftaa
Bradford, UK
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
www.daruliftaa.net
[1] (قَوْلُهُ وَالْعَقِيقِ) قَالَ فِي غُرَرِ الْأَفْكَارِ وَالْأَصَحُّ أَنَّهُ لَا بَأْسَ بِهِ، «لِأَنَّهُ – عَلَيْهِ الصَّلَاةُ وَالسَّلَامُ – تَخَتَّمَ بِعَقِيقٍ» وَقَالَ: «تَخَتَّمُوا بِالْعَقِيقِ فَإِنَّهُ مُبَارَكٌ» وَلِأَنَّهُ لَيْسَ بِحَجَرٍ إذْ لَيْسَ لَهُ ثِقْلُ الْحَجَرِ، وَبَعْضُهُمْ أَطْلَقَ التَّخَتُّمَ بِيَشْبٍ وَبَلُّورٍ وَزُجَاجٍ (قَوْلُهُ وَعَمَّمَ مُنْلَا خُسْرو) أَيْ عَمَّمَ جَوَازَ التَّخَتُّمِ بِسَائِرِ الْأَحْجَارِ حَيْثُ قَالَ بَعْدَ كَلَامٍ فَالْحَاصِلُ: أَنَّ التَّخَتُّمَ بِالْفِضَّةِ حَلَالٌ لِلرِّجَالِ بِالْحَدِيثِ وَبِالذَّهَبِ وَالْحَدِيدِ وَالصُّفْرِ حَرَامٌ عَلَيْهِمْ بِالْحَدِيثِ
(رد المحتار علي الدر المختار، ج ٦، ص ٣٦٠، ايج ايم سعيد كمبني)؛
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