1.) You should invite them towards Islam
2.) If they accept then invite them towards prayer.
3.) Then towards alms giving.
4.) Give them glad tidings
5.) Share with them a talk of ease.
6.) Not act with severity.
There is another narration that says that he said there are ten things. Some of which are:
1.) Don’t associate someone with Allah s.w. whether you are killed for it or burned for it.
2.) Don’t disobey your parents even if they talk about leaving one’s wife.
3.) Don’t miss the obligatory prayer because one who leaves this Allah s.w. will be absolved of his responsibility towards him.
4.) Don’t drink because it’s the root cause of all sins.
5.) Stay away from disobeying because it brings Allah’s s.w.
displeasure.
6.) Never run away from the battlefield even if all the people are dying or if you have to face your death you should remain firm.
7.) You should spend from your money on your family.
8.) Keep them in guard and use warnings of force if you have to.
9.) Keep reminding them of their duties to Allah s.w.
These reports are mentioned in Mishkat and Thirmidhi.