Q: I am Alhamdulillah married and my wife’s father is a qaadiyani. However, I am not too sure what type of qaadiyaani he is. I know he does not believe in the fool Mirza being a prophet but I think he does believe in him being the Mehdi, even this I am not to sure about. If not then he just gives some standing to him. My mother in law is a sunni muslim, how they came about getting married is because they are 1st cousins so I don’t think much attention was given, the family is not well linked with Ulamas etc. At first I was not too sure how deep my wife’s father was in qaadiyaanism. Initially my thinking was because his siblings were all qadiyanis he had some weakness towards it and just said he is a qaadiyani because from what I know he practices Islam the sunni way and talks very highly of prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). But my mother in law came over (they live in Canada, I am in the UK) and I finally got the courage to ask her a few questions about my wife’s father and from there I have become skeptical and now I am not too sure how deep his belief is. He does on occasions like Eid pray behind their Imaam but again it is because all his family are there. I was introduced to my wife so I don’t know the family too well, however neither did my wife know her father had these type of beliefs as her mother always brought her up in sunni Islam.
Here are my questions:
- Is he a Kaafir?
- If my mother in law believes him to be a Muslim does she stay in the fold of Islaam?
- My In laws are very kind to me so what sort of relationship should I keep with them?
- Its difficult for me to ignore him out but I am beginning to feel some serious hatred if his belief is kufr, should I still go visit them in Canada?
- How should my wife’s relationship be with her parents?
- If anybody believes that Ghulam Ahmad Qadiyani was a prophet or a Muslim, then he has terribly damaged his faith and the damage could be fatal. It requires him to re-enter into Islam.
- Perhaps she is doing this out of ignorance and not understanding the implications of being a Qadiyani. Obviously she is ignorant and needs to be educated.
- At some appropriate occasion you should make them understand the folly of their belief and its evil consequences.
- It is safest not to keep a friendly relationship with such people.
- At the best she should be good to her mother and try her best to avoid close relationship with her father.
وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ ﴿١٤﴾ وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا ۖ وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا ۖ وَاتَّبِعْ سَبِيلَ مَنْ أَنَابَ إِلَيَّ ۚ ثُمَّ إِلَيَّ مَرْجِعُكُمْ فَأُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ ﴿١٥﴾ (سورة لقمان)
وحاصله أن المحكوم بكفره من أداه هواه وبدعته إلى مخالفة دليل قطعي لا يسوغ فيه تأويلا أصلا كرد آية قرآنية أو تكذيب نبي أو إنكار أحد أركان الإسلام ونحو ذلك (تكملة رد المحتار 7/162)
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)