Q: I get so many negative thoughts in my mind about Allah. When I see how my husband is attracted towards other girls and some girls in public also getting attracted towards him, I feel it’s not his fault and that is how Allah has created men. I feel hurt when he gets attracted towards other girls and acting weirdly with them. I know Allah has created men like this. Even if I am the best wife towards him he will still be attracted towards others and he has the right to marry another woman. Even if we have the best relationship it is not a bad thing if he marries another. Allah has given men this right and didn’t care about how we will feel.
How cruel is this that in this world we women have to suffer this much for men’s behavior and we are reading in Quran and hadith that our reward in jannah is less than men. They are going to have many other women and we will not feel bad about this. Allah has made women depended on these creatures which are called “men”. I can logically convince my mind this is what Allah’s hiqmah is. He is the all knower and He doesn’t oppress anyone but my love for Allah diminishes. I cannot force myself to love Allah. So my prayers are empty.
I feel like it’s inhuman to a woman, allowing men to have physical relation with their slave girls, having more than one wife and after all these hardships we will get less than men in jannah. I don’t want to loose my iman and I don’t know if these things are making me kafir or not. I just have to speak my heart out and I don’t want to loose iman. This is why I am writing to you.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)