Q: My maid is working since 1 year at my place. After she joined, some months later I caught her stealing. Once I caught her removing a wallet from a jeans then after 2 or 3 days she was stealing onions. When I caught her, I said to her in a nice way that you should not do this. Before this, she stole 20 rs from my sons pocket and then she apologised. The next time I will not do it and thereafter many vessels disappeared from the house. My mother in law used to tell me everyday to ask her whether she took it or not. Our neighbour used to always say that she used to steal needles. She even asked why did you keep her to work. You should remove her I told her that now she is not stealing. She apologised but i still doubted her and yesterday I was searching for my earing and I didn’t find it. Today in anger I scolded her directly that you had taken that earing, bring it back. She was saying that I had not taken it. She told me to check her house and suitcase. I told her not to talk rubbish to me, I know you had taken it. Bring it back. I also called my neighbour and her maids for proof that she is stealing everyday from their house but at that time my neighbour refused and my maid was crying like mad. She was saying I had not done it and I said to her in anger, because of this habit of yours, no one is keeping you for a longer. She went crying like mad from here and then after I called my mom, my earings were at my moms place. I called her and apologised 3-4 times but she was crying and saying that I will not come. I was feeling it is like my home when I started working. I got fever now and I will not come to your place. She said that her heart is badly hurt (dil pe lagi hai mere). Now if she will curse me and my family, then I am feeling scared from inside. I was also very strict with her. Without thinking, I scolded her loudly because of her previous deeds. I felt she is steal stealing. Now I told her to come here one more time, I want to apologise before all to her, but she is refusing to come. What should I do?
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.