Assalaamualaikum Warahmatullaahi Wabarakaatuh,
Alhumdulillah I’m 19 years old boy who have lot of interest in doing hifz and alhumdulillah I’m doing it also plus with this I’m also persuing my higher studies i.e Engineering.
Alhumdulillah Allah(s.w.t) has given me nice knowledge from the time till I passout my 10th standard ,11th and 12th standard. Alhumdulillah I come out with a flying colours in all these standard. But when I joined engineering and as the days passed my classmates begin to tease me eventhough I hadn’t said them nor tease them anything. They take out some unwanted sound with my name.
If the voice of girl is taken out by boy how is it , yes , they take out in that matter. Alhumdulillah I’m also involved in a noble work of tableegh. The teasing of my classmates in my first year(now I’m in second year) of enginnering, has effected me lot to which I got failed in my 3 subjects. I never ever failed in my life but this had happened to me now. All see me with the intention of teasing me, I just drink my anger with their teasing behaviour. Sometimes I want to reply to their behaviour but what can I do I’m one and they are all. I got fear with thier teasing that I can’t study and I will fail , and I got failed. My second year of engineering is about to end and still I have two years to be spend. Even I cannot change my college due to the rules and regulations of government.
In my first year I got insulted by one lecture who is also involve in this noble work. My classmates sometimes teases me with the words which he used for insulting me. I got stressed in my first year and also I had waswaas from shaitaan(about allah talah), but alhumdulillah it is gone now. Now a days my classmates are also teasing me more than before. I can’t bare this. What should I do? Even the people who are linked with the dawah work of tableegh also teasing me.
Everytime I remembered that Ayah of Quran Innal laaha ma-as-sabireen in which I heard from ulema that this verse means to three people ,the one who do have patience on teasing from people, 1 who do have patience on his nafs(Impermissible things)for doing sins and other one should be on truth (haq)..I’m very much sad regarding this teasing from my classmates.I’m loosing my confidence on studies.
Even I can’t ask doubts from my lecturer.What should I do? I can’t complain to my principal also about them , if I done so, after all I have to spend more 2 years with them. They will take revenge with me. I’m becoming mad about this.I’m controlling myself !
but till how much time Mufti Sahab how much time? Please help me out of this situation. I do spend sometime in jamat as well. Help me. Please help me! I hope my answer will be give my Mufti Ebrahim Desai Sahab.
Assalāmu `alaikum Warahmatullāhi Wabrakatuh,
Ma-sha-Allah, you are so fortunate that you have been given the good-fortune to undertake Hifz of the Holy Qur’aan. Find below an interesting and true article regarding another Engineering student.
Regarding the teasing, it is all a question of mind over matter. No one can annoy you accept to the degree that you allow them to annoy you. It all boils down to your attitude.
If you show that you are affected by their teasing, they will only continue. If you genuinely show indifference, it will soon stop. You just have to be very strong, and by that is not meant physically strong. You need to be mentally very very very strong. Condition your mind that although it exists, it does have to exist for me if I do not want it to exist. Teasing is just a statement. It is not a reality. It is just an expression, which is not necessarily true. Why then should you allow it to affect you, make you upset, or even bring the slightest change in your attitude.
Look around you and you will notice that some people in society have a strong independent character. Some of them may be physically small, but as far as their attitude is concerned, they are towering giants. They don’t care a damn what people think of them, what people say about them, and what society feels. They do not live for society. They have a higher purpose in life.
So, this technique was taught by the Algerian Shaykh Zakariya al-Siddiqi who teaches at the Institute of Human Sciences in France is one of the foremost scholars of Quran.
He memorised it by the age of 9 and dedicated his life to studying and teaching it, and he once told us the story of one of his friends. His friend was an engineering student, who was a ‘Fresher’ about to embark on a 5 year degree. Let’s call him Ahmed…
Ahmed was an intelligent student who Followed one of the oft-forgotten Sunnah’s of Success…
He woke up earlier than most people. In fact, he woke up on time to get to the Mosque to pray Fajr every day.
When he got home from the mosque, instead of busying himself with the internet or watching television, he spent the first few minutes of each day memorising the Quran.
Ahmed made a firm commitment to memorise the Quran, but instead of rushing in and trying to memorise one or two pages each day (like his friends who gave up before long), he confined himself to learning 5 lines per day.
This worked out to be about 20-30 minutes per day for him. In order to overcome the initial unfamiliarity with the new verses, he spent the first few minutes each day actually writing out the 5 lines of that day onto a small sheet of paper.
He spent the next few minutes reciting them over and over, and then attempted to memorise them.
As Ahmed went about his day, he often found that he had a few chunks of time – several minutes each. During these times, such as waiting for the bus, or waiting for a teacher to turn up to a class, Ahmed would try to remember the 5 lines from that morning.
To aid his memory, he kept the sheet that he wrote out that morning folded in his pocket, and would pull it out if he was struggling.
To further support his memory, every prayer he prayed that day, he would recite the same 5 verses of Quran that he learned that morning. In each raka’, he would alternate between the 5 lines from that day, and the 5 lines he learned the day before. And remember…
With the Uthmani script of the Quran, there are exactly 15 lines per page. So, by the end of the week, Ahmed had not only memorised 2 whole pages of the Quran, but he had written them out in full, too… a very blessed act if ever there was one.
On the weekend, Ahmed would visit a local scholar of Quran recitation, and would revise with him the 2 pages he had just memorised, and have a go at the 2 pages he would be working on the following week. This way, he was certain to learn the Quran with accurate tajweed and beautiful recitation.
There was one other secret to Ahmed’s success.
Once a week, on a weekend evening (usually on a Friday night), Ahmed would wake up in the middle of the night, and pray Tahajjud. During his special Tahajjud prayer, Ahmed would recite the whole two pages he had learned that week, and consolidate them.
At this point, the Shaykh mentioned that perhaps one of the reasons so few people manage to wake up and do this special prayer, which is highly recommended by the Quran and by our beloved Prophet (saw), is that we don’t have anything to recite.
We have so little Quran memorised that there’s no fun or enjoyment in the challenge of waking up for Tahajjud.
You can imagine Ahmed’s excitement and feeling of achievement and success 3 months after he started, when he had memorised the entire 1st Juz!
It’s not just the feeling of success and empowerment that Quran gave him, but also the deep connection with Allah (SWT) he felt every single day.
You can only imagine how proud he must have felt of himself, when upon graduation Ahmed not only received a 1st class degree in engineering (he was 3rd in his class), but he had also officially memorised the entire Quran.
Shaykh Zakariya pointed out a final lesson from this blessed brother.
The biggest achievement he made was not to memorise the Quran. The biggest achievement he made was to be deeply connected with the Quran every single day for 5 years.
That connection with Allah (SWT) is what made Ahmed so special. That deep link with the Creator is what keeps life in perspective and is what helped Ahmed to keep on track with the little weekly targets he set for himself.
One can only imagine what happened to Ahmed’s levels of personal fulfillment, iman and taqwa, as he went back every single day to develop this ritual of ihsan (spiritual excellence). Each day he woke up for Fajr and wrote out another 5 lines of Quran, his self-esteem and self-confidence soared…
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