I have 2 question, first is when i was child my mom have her own money and some time my father have need money and he ask my mom to me give me money and she give them and some time my father give my mom money back or some time not because he know that is her own money and my mom had friend and mom share this problem with her and she said to my mom when your husband next time ask money you can said that money give my friend and you have to give back on time, and she also said you said we got loan too my mom told her this wasn’t halal but she said no this is halal, so when my father need money my mom give him and told him her name and said she wants loan too. so my father give her money and extra loan too, this program is continue, about 8 to 10 years ago, now still my mom have that money which she got loan and own money too, mix she have,and now she wants what i do with this money to give back to my father or give to poor people, she want to know what our religion said, because one think is that my father didn’t give my mom to money and she have her own animal and she sell and make money, please tell us what she do with this money,
My other question is that i have some friends who are marzi i know you know who are marzi, when i was in middle and high school we have very good friendship we went each other home, some of my other friends who said you don’t talk with them they have other religion but i don’t understand that time, and also i have not too much information about them, and now i am come here st. Louis and some time i cal them and talked them, and one day i tell one aunti about them and she said u don’t talk with them and don’t go her home that time i ask her why she said they have different religion but i don’t understand it i want to know what i have to do, because now we are go back in pakistan if i don’t talked with them maybe they don’t like it, i want to know what our religion said and what i have to do to leave far with them, because i don’t want to hurt anybody, please give me answer what i have to do and what our religion said,
jazakallah khair, Brother,i really appreciate you,
الجواب وبالله التوفيق
- The money taken by your mother from your father as a ‘loan’, after taking her friend’s suggestion, will have to be returned to him.
The borrowing and giving of money between your mother and father which went on for 8 years, is their personal matter, and is totally dependent upon their mutual understanding. As it is a general practice, that a husband and wife borrow and give money to each other, sometimes returning it and other times just keeping it. As long as there is no confrontation and issue; it will be permissible for them to engage in such transactions.
If your father’s intention at the time of taking loan from your mother was to return it, and your mother’s intention was to land the money to get it back later, then the borrowing and giving back in this case will be permissible. However, the money taken from your father in the name of ‘loan’ (when it was not the case) should be given back to him.
- Qādiyānīs are considered as KafirBil-Ijmae. with consensus among Muslims, and having any sort of friendly relationship with them is incorrect. Your relatives are absolutely right in stopping you s from having a friendship with Qādiyānīs. If you are feeling bad because your friends will feel bad that you did not contact them, then you should think what your answer will be on the day of judgment, when Allah SWT and Rasūlullāh Sallallāhu Alaihi Wa Sallam will ask you, why you kept friends with Their enemies. Therefore, you should refrain from keeping any contact with Qādiyānīs.
يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ لَا تَتَّخِذُواْ عَدُوِّى وَعَدُوَّكُمۡ أَوۡلِيَآءَ تُلۡقُونَ إِلَيۡہِم بِٱلۡمَوَدَّةِ وَقَدۡ كَفَرُواْ بِمَا جَآءَكُم مِّنَ ٱلۡحَقِّ(الممتحنۃ ،1