mufti Sahaab,We have been married for 6 years now, alhamdulliah we are doing good, my wife works full and I work full time too in another state. I come home once a week for two days and my wife is really not happy to see me, her complain is I dont do anything for her which I do, she has got access for all the money I have and I don’t even say a word what she spends on. She wants me to buy her stuff, since I have no time I told her she can buy what ever she wants, now she gives me a hard time to perform intercourse and always makes up stories or when I try to talk she just ignores. I have no idea what to do and how to control my emotions. I am getting depressed and don’t want to go home anymore and she is fine with me not coming home, her mentality is what ever rights a male has she thinks female has the same rights I tried explaining her it does not work like that. I give zakat help lot of people financially I try to pray 5 times a day but misses sometimes I really dont know what to do please guide me what I can do to resolve this issue or recommend some books I can give it to my wife to read to understand wife duties to her husband. Allahafiz.
الجواب وبالله التوفيق
We suggest you to do the following:
- Go to some authentic Islamic scholars and get some marriage counseling from them.
- If feasible, transfer your job to the same city where your wife is.
- There are numerous Islamic books with topics relating to the rights of husband and wife, give those books to your wife to read.