Can Muslim women choose not to marry due to fear of not being a good wife or mother?

‘Nikaah is from my path’. ‘Whosoever dislikes my Sunnah is not from me (my Ummah)’.

The two above-mentioned Ahaadith have been narrated on seperate occasions by Rasoolullah Sallallhu alaihi wa sallam but the Khutabaa (people who perform the Nikaah ceremonies) often combine the two to highlight the status of Nikaah in Islam.

As mentioned by yourself, it is correct to say that there have been a few great Scholars in Islam, such as, Allamah Ibn Taymiyyah Rahmatullahi alaihi, who did not marry simply because of their commitment and attachment to Ilm. But it must be clearly understood that all the Ambiyaa (prophets) with the exception of Yahya and Isa (alayhimussalam) married. Muslims believe that Isa alayhissalaam too, will marry on his return to earth from the heavens.

There are only benefits and no harms involved in getting married. If we start a discussion on this topic then a whole book can be written on it.

The most important benefit of marriage is that it is a protection for one’s deen from the trials and tribulations of this world. Rasoolullah addressed the youth of this Ummah saying: ” Whosoever amongst you has reached the age of sexual ability must get married. For marriage lower’s ones gaze and protects one’s private parts.”

Especially in this day and age of mischief when there is no sign of modesty, marriage is the strong rope through which one may hold to his or her deen firmly and tightly. It helps one excel and progress in their Deen.

The thought of neglecting the partner’s rights after marriage, or not being able to commit are all satanic whispers. He tries his utmost to deviate man from the correct way. It is Allah who combines the hearts and puts love for each other in them. It is often seen that although you may not have things in common, but after marrying you are totally compatible, with a little understanding and compromising. This is the key to a successful marriage.

It is encouraging to see that you are worried about the right’s. Many people are not even worried. Your concern shall help you and Allah know’s the sincerity in the hearts.

After all, every individual has been created with the in-born need, and if not married, how will one fulfil it?

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Mufti Yaseen Shaikh