Q: Please help. Me and my wife had an argument and I have said to her “here is your car keys and your house keys bye bye” meaning I left you. I think I was just angry and wanted to punish her or make her worried and I don’t really know what my intention was when I said these words. I left the house but came back after 20 minutes when my anger was gone and we said sorry to each other and continued normal, and we never had anything like that again. I don’t think I was ready to divorce her but I was angry with her and I am having doubts of my intentions when I said these words. Am I just confused? This happened 8 months ago and now she is pregnant. Please help having known these words could be considered divorce I am 100% sure I wouldn’t have said it. I love my wife and I think the reason why I said these words is because I wanted her to stop this arguments I think, but I wasn’t sure if I wanted to divorce her maybe I was treating her or something, I really can’t remember what was going through my head but I wouldn’t give her talaq maybe I was just angry and wanted to make her afraid. But I didn’t think I wanted to leave her for good that’s one thing I am sure of. What is my situation brother? Is she still my wife? I wrote to Islamic Sharia council uk and this is what they said (These words without clear and firm intention of divorce, will not constitute an Islamic Divorce.) Is this correct because if this is correct my intention was not firm for divorce. Brother when I said these words to her if she would have said to me at that time “give me a talaq ” I would have said to her NO, so brother do you think I was treating her but didn’t want to divorce her judging by my first sentence?
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Zakaria Makada
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Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)