Q: I am in mid 30s and live abroad, work and independent. My parents did not try enough to find a suitable match for me at the right age when I was in my 20s. Now they are trying but finding proposals who want to marry me for immigration status. My parents live back home. My married brother lives in the same city as I do, but he does not help me much in finding a partner. I have tried asking them, and when they try they just find some useless match and ask me to marry. I think my parents are responsible for my situation and also my brother doesn’t help me. I tried to find myself and people take advantage. I am really frustrated and don’t feel like keeping good relations with my family
as I have helped them especially my brother so much, but they don’t do anything for me. What should I do? Where should I find happiness and a life partner for me. I tried so much on my own through matrimonial websites, Musjid Imams etc. but now my age has become a huge obstacle. I live alone and am so desperate to have a family of my own where someone cares for me too, as my family don’t care much. I asked my father to go for umrah with me, for which I was willing to pay everything, but he is not interested. I can’t even go to umrah without a mahram. Please tell me what you would suggest in my miserable situation as I hate everyone as no one helps, and in turn they want my help all the time for worldly things.
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)