Q: I am 32 years old. I got married 10 years ago and have three kids. I had a relation in my past with other guy. I wanted to marr him but because of some issues did not get married. My husband is a very nice person but from some relatives of mine he came to know about my past. For the past 10 years I suffered from his anger now I am very much changed and pray, do prayers and istighfaar. My husband asked me to take an oath and touch the Qur’an and tell him everything. I don’t want to distroy my marriage life and my three kids life. I also tell him about my past, but my husband wants to know each and everything which I don’t want to tell him because I don’t feel good. Please guide me. Can I take and oath for saving my marriage life and my kids life.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.