Question:
Is it permissible to masturbate under the following circumstances.
I was divorced in ____, and remarried last year in ______ for 4mnts. Unfortunately due to lies and secrets marriage didnt last especially because aqlaaq and respect for her deen was not there. So for 10 yrs uptil las yr i remained single without getting intimate alhamdullilah.
In the marriage last year we very intimate, almost every day.
Shukr alhamdullilah after the divorce Allah has kept me away from going and committing adultery. However my problem is i suffer with excruciating pain down there around my genital area. I have been to the doctor who feels because i am not intimate anymore.
My question is, would it be permissible to masturbate to ease my pain as i dont want to commit adultery.
Its difficult to get married again as i have trust issues, being a single dad n my kids live with me, and i have my parents with that i live and care for.
Answer:
May Allah Ta’ala accept your concern and effort to abstain from the sin of Zina (adultery).
Allah Ta’ala mentions in the Quraan-e-Majeed:
وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ إِلَّا عَلَى أَزْوَاجِهِمْ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُومِينَ فَمَنِ ابْتَغَى وَرَاءَ ذَلِكَ فَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ الْعَادُونَ
المؤمنون (7-5)
Translation: And those who safeguard their private organs (from adultery, fornication and other illicit sexual acts) except when it comes to their spouses and the bondswomen whom they own. They will surely not be blamed about (cohabiting with) them. Whoever seeks more then this (by fulfilling their sexual desires in a manner that the Shari’ah forbids), then such persons are transgressors (sinners) indeed.
Only two permissible avenues for the gratification of sexual desires have been stipulated in the aforementioned Ayaat viz. a spouse and a female slave.
Masturbation is not a permissible means of subduing the carnal desires.
It is our recommendation that a second opinion be sought, from an upright Muslim doctor, with regard to the pain being experienced and the treatment thereof.
With regard to the quelling of desires, Nabi H has mentioned: “And whoever cannot (marry) should fast, for it is a means of reducing the sexual desire.” Additionally, lower the gaze from any non-Mahram women and abstain from anything which might exacerbate the sexual desires.
Remain steadfast on obedience to the commands of Allah Ta’ala, refrain from sin and continue beseeching from Allah Ta’ala to grant you a pious and suitable spouse. Make it a regular practice to recite the following Duas:
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
Translation: O Our Rabb! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the pious.
رَبِّ إِنّى لِما أَنزَلتَ إِلَىَّ مِن خَيرٍ فَقيرٌ
Translation: O My Rabb! Truly I am in need of whatever good You bestow on me
In conclusion, you should make an effort to find a pious woman so that you can lead a healthy life physically and spiritually. In the interim, you should resort to fasting and you should seek some medical help to relieve your pain.
Checked and Approved By:
Mufti Muhammed Saeed Motara Saheb D.B.
وكذا الاستمناء بالكف وإن كره تحريما لحديث «ناكح اليد ملعون»
كتاب الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين رد المحتار (2/399)
الاستمناء حرام، وفيه التعزير، ولو مكن امرأته، أو أمته من العبث بذكره، فأنزل، فإنه مكروه، ولا شيء عليه، كذا في السراج الوهاج.
كتاب الفتاوى الهندية (2/170)
قوله: “لا لجلبها” أي فيحرم لما روي عنه صلى الله عليه وسلم ناكح اليد ملعون وقال ابن جريج سألت عنه عطاء فقال: مكروه وسمعت قوما يحشرون وأيديهم حبالى فأظنهم هؤلاء وقال سعيد بن جبير عذب الله أمة كانوا يعبثون بمذاكيرهم وورد سبعة لا ينظر الله إليهم منهم الناكح يده قوله:
حاشية الطحطاوي على مراقي الفلاح شرح نور الإيضاح (96)
قال عبد الله كنا مع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم شبابا لا نجد شيئا فقال لنا رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يا معشر الشباب من استطاع الباءة فليتزوج فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرج ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وجاء
(صحيح البخاري، الرقم: 5066)