I am a college student who works at my parents restaurant part time. My parents don’t pray prayers on time and wait till they get home to make it up. I tell my mom this is wrong but they comes up with excuses such as Allah doesn’t over burden us or there’s nowhere clean to pray .
Since I work for them they wont let me pray at work so I have to make them up at home. I know this is a major sin but I don’t know what to do. I told my parents I was going to leave school and find another job so i can pray my prayers on time but they threaten to kick me out if i leave school . Please tell me what I should do.
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
At the outset, we wish to mention that it is indeed praiseworthy to note that you hold such high concern about the obligation of salaah. Your effort in ensuring that you and your parents offer salaah show that you value the gift of salaah and are willing to go to any lengths to rectify this shortcoming. This is a great sign of imaan. May Allah Ta’ala continue to grant you blessings for your efforts. Aameen.
Respected brother, we understand your predicament and the clash you are facing with your parents; such situations are definitely challenging.
The only way to overcome such situations is through dua and employing wisdom. Though your intention was noble, perhaps you may need to alter the approach in dealing with the issue. One might have the right objective in mind, however, if an incorrect method is adopted then such an approach will often result in resentment and indifference towards the subject and will halt future attempts in rectifying the situation. As such, we advise you to approach your parents again but with utmost love and affection in a kind and diplomatic manner. Instil the importance of salaah in their hearts and the rewards that await one who safeguards salaah. Explain to them that by obeying the commandments of Allah Ta’ala, one will have barakah (blessings) in all aspects of life. Bring to their attention that Allah’s obedience is greater and above everything.
Kindly encourage your parents to make adjustments for offering salaah, the best option would be for you and your father to attend the masjid. Furthermore, you may also approach your parents in stipulating a designated area for your mother to perform salaah.
It is important to understand the level of importance given to Salaah in Shari’ah as it is one of the pillars of Islaam. Consider the following:
Allah Ta’ala says,
حَافِظُوا عَلَى الصَّلَوَاتِ وَالصَّلَاةِ الْوُسْطَى وَقُومُوا لِلَّهِ قَانِتِينَ
Translation: Guard your salawaat (perform them at their correct time), especially the middle one (the Asr salaah) and stand humbly before Allah. [1:238]
Rasulullah (sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) mentions,
سُئِلَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَيُّ الأَعْمَالِ أَفْضَلُ؟ قَالَ: الصَّلاَةُ لأَوَّلِ وَقْتِهَا.
Translation: Rasulullah (sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) was once asked which action is most virtuous? He replied: “salaah in the beginning of its time”.
In another naarration, Rasulullah (sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) is reported to have said,
صَلاَةُ الرَّجُلِ فِي الجَمَاعَةِ تُضَعَّفُ عَلَى صَلاَتِهِ فِي بَيْتِهِ، وَفِي سُوقِهِ، خَمْسًا وَعِشْرِينَ ضِعْفًا
Translation: The reward of the salaah offered by a person in a congregation is twenty five times greater than that of the salaah offered in one’s house or in the market.
One essential method one may choose in order to achieve the above prescription is by conducting ta’leem in the home by reading Fadhaail-e-A’amaal of Shaykh Muhammad Zakariyyah Khandelwi (rahimahullah).
Lastly, always make dua and ask Allah Ta’ala to turn the hearts of your parents. Through effort and dua, you will surely see results in the near future.
You may present this fatwa to your parents as a way of encouragement.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Fahad Abdul Wahab
Student Darul Iftaa
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai