By nature, I understand that the Sahabah used to joke amongst themselves. Was there any Sahaba or pious person who in their nature did not like jokes being made about them in any way?
My friends think I’m too serious as I do not take “jokes” lightly. I take it seriously as I believe in every “I’m joking” there is truth, truth that the person didn’t have the guts to tell you to your face.
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Sister in Islam,
We understand that people are different by nature and it is important to respect each individual for who he/she is. Everyone cannot be expected to like or dislike the same things; each person’s taste varies. However, there is a level of common courtesy which each member of a society must endeavour to uphold; this may differ from community to community.
As you have mentioned correctly, the Sahāba did share light-hearted moments with one another, as did Nabī (salla Allahu ‘alaihi wa sallam). Nonetheless, they were very cautious of not overstepping the boundaries of its permissibility. Imām Ghazālī (rahimahu Allah)[1] mentions a few guidelines regarding “joking”:
- It should not be done excessively/continuously
- It should not involve lying.
- It should not involve scoffing or jeering at someone.
- It should not be done to expose someone’s flaws.
Though we should be focused on attaining lofty ranks in Jannah, we can still enjoy those that are around us. We advise that you change your perception of your friends who like to share a laugh with you. Rather than considering their joyful demeanour a veil of evil, look at them as your well-wishers..
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Hisham Dawood
Student, Darul Iftaa
Chicago, USA
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ismail Desai.
www.daruliftaa.net
إحياء علوم الدين، الآفة العاشرة المزاح و الآفة الحادية عشرة السخرية و الإستهزاء