I imigrated with my husband to north america and our families live in middle east.Problems happend between my husband and my parents I need to know what does the share’ah say and please with esnad if possible on the following quetions: 1.what is the minimum limit for me to visit my parents in backhome to keep my family ties? 2.The money spent on our visit to backhome in order to keep our family ties what is its priority among the other life spendings like food,accomodation saving for our children education,buying a house instead of renting,…etc. 3.when we go visit our home country my husband refuses to let me stay at my parents’ as long as he is in the country and wants me to stay with him at his parents’ and just go visit my parents but not to stay overnight as well as he does not let me stay with my parents more than his stay?
1) Although the Shari’ah has commanded joining of family ties, it has not
fixed any time or mode for doing so. Rather, it has created facility by
leaving these to the discretion of the individual, as per his circumstance.
Some Ulama have written that a wife has the right to visit her parents
weekly but not to spend a night away from the home provided by her husband
without his permission. (Fataawa Mahmoodiyyah Vol. 17 Pg. 273)
2) Beyond basic necessities of life, one may exercise his discretion. If
traveling expenses are not affordable, one may still keep up family ties by
written or telephonic correspondence. Allaamah Shaami (R.A) has written, “If
they (relatives) are distant, he must join ties by written correspondence.
If he is able to visit them, it is more virtuous.” (Raddul Muhtaar Vol. 9
Pg. 589 Imdaadiyyah).
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Bilaal Cassim
FATWA DEPT.
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