My honourable respected mufti
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Aameen to your duas.
Your intention to get married to save yourself from zinah is noble.
We commend you for not engaging in an illicit relationship with the girl for the past two years.
You also state that you have minimised the wrong you have been doing. This is a clear sign of your Iman. Your Iman is rejecting your mistake and spurred you to repent and regret of the wrong. You did so sincerely and renewed your Iman. You have acted correctly.
Brother, you are in the fifth year of the Aalim course and the girl is in her final year. We should not be reminding you of the vice and ill effects of Zina and entering into an illicit relationship. Both of you are well aware of the consequences of such relationships.
Firstly, repent to Allah Ta’ala and cut of any connection that you may have with the girl in reference. Moreover, have a sincere intention to protect yourself in the future and to avoid speaking to the opposite gender without a genuine need.
Marriage is an extremely important step and a lifelong responsibility. It is a lifetime commitment in which a long-term relationship is established as a family. In choosing a spouse, all related issues must be carefully contemplated. When one is choosing a spouse, he is choosing a companion for the rest of his life. Hence, it is of utmost importance than one makes a constructive decision, deliberates every avenue and thinks for the long term. A pious spouse will be a source of contentment and preservation of one’s Deen.
If both of you wish to get married, you should adopt principles and discuss the issue with some responsible person in the family, perhaps an elderly reputable person to communicate and influence both parents to get both of you married.
You state the girl in reference is not ready to get married. Then you should perform nikaah only and prolong the rukhsati for a later stage. If she is not ready for that too, then you have to ask yourself if her love for you is genuine.
If the girl does not agree to perform the Nikaah, you should control your emotions and refrain from any communication with the girl in reference. The more you keep your mind occupied in thinking about her it will create restlessness within your heart.
Finally, Allah will decree what is best in His infinite knowledge for you.
May Allah Ta’ala bless you with the most compatible partner who is a means of happiness for you in this world and the hereafter. Aameen.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Muhammad I.V Patel
Student Darul Iftaa
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
This answer was collected from Askimam.org, which is operated under the supervision of Mufti Ebrahim Desai from South Africa.