Question Summary
Does saying to one’s wife, ‘you are perfectly wrong for me’ count as a divorce if one did not mean what they said?
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate
None of what you mentioned counts as a divorce. The words ‘you are perfectly wrong for me’ do not count as a divorce.
Divorce only occurs when one says one of two types of expressions.
(1) Explicit words whose meaning is only used for divorce, such as ‘you are divorced.‘ [Quduri, al-Mukhtasar]
(2) Indirect expressions that entail the meaning of divorce and other possible meanings; such expressions are not considered divorce unless one intended divorce when saying them or the situation indicates that one intended divorce. [Quduri, al-Mukhtasar]
Your singing to your wife the above words does not meet either of the above expressions.
Hope this helps
Allah knows best
[Shaykh] Yusuf Weltch
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani