Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
Question:
I am staying alone with my aunt as my parents have been gone on a trip for a week. She is about 40, and I am 15 years old. I am attracted to her sexually. She is scared of sleeping alone, so she insists that I sleep with her. Yesterday at fajr time I felt wetness on my hand, so I woke up to find the wetness was her wet dream while my hand was on her private part directly. She also woke up. I feel really embarrassed and guilty. My aunt is pleading to keep this a secret.
Answer:
Assalamu alaykum,
Thank you for your question. I am sorry that you went through this unfortunate incident.
Moral responsibility
The good news is that you are not morally responsible for what happens in your sleep. It was not intentional. The whole thing does sound a little suspicious, though, and I would say that it was foolish of you to sleep in the same bed as her, especially with the attraction. If she was really scared of being alone, you could have slept on the floor or the couch. Tawba is not called for here, but you should still turn to Allah, supplicating for protection from all harm and haram.
Moving forward
Please ensure not to sleep with her in the same room again to avoid something worse. This is the best protection against this happening again, and you should avoid your aunt at all costs. She is your mahram, but if there is fear of falling into sin, you would be wise to treat her as a non-mahram. In the future, you should not sleep under the same covers with any other person until you are married. It would be wise, also, to cut off all communication with her for a while.
Parents
As for telling your parents, I cannot tell you what the right course of action is, but I am inclined toward telling them. If you were a parent, you would undoubtedly want to know what happened with your teenager. Also, a parent’s job is to protect their child, and your parents won’t be able to do this if they are in the dark. Please pray an istikhara about doing what is correct, beneficial, honest, and don’t consider your aunt’s feelings; she is a grown lady who can take care of herself. You are the younger one and may even be the victim here. Please see this link as well:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/uncle-sexually-attracted-sister/
May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.