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My friend had a child in a manner against the Shariah. How can she be forgiven?  

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Answered by Shaykh Amjad Rasheed

My friend allowed her daughter to be brought into this world in a manner that was against the Sharia. How can she ask Allah to forgive her when she cannot forgive herself? This mistake happened only once and it was with the person she subsequently married. However, she still feels deep remorse and I believe that this issue is killing her. I beg you for advice.

Answer:
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

There is no doubt that fornication is unlawful and is an enormity that entails punishment in this life and the hereafter for the one who does it. The one who invites to indecency is without doubt also sinful.

As to the punishment for the fornicator in this life, there is a distinction between the married [fornicator] and the unmarried. The married fornicator is someone who has had sexual intercourse in a valid marriage contract [and then goes on to commit adultery]. In an Islamic State, this person is subject to stoning until death. However, the unmarried [fornicator] is whipped 100 lashes and banished for a year, according to the hadith. No one but the Imam or his representative is allowed to carry out the penalty for fornication. This crime cannot be proven against someone unless he/she confesses, or four upright male witnesses give eyewitness testimony that they saw the unlawful sexual intercourse take place. It is not enough for them to have merely seen the preliminaries to intercourse.

It is better for the person who falls into this sin to protect himself by not telling people. Even if someone admits to having fornicated and the authorities seek to impose the penalty on him/her, this person can recant his admission and say, “I did not fornicate,” and the penalty cannot be imposed. This is the mercy of Allah for His slave and His protection for him.

As to the person who calls to indecency and incites people therein, he or she is not punished as aforementioned as long as he or she has not fornicated. However, this person is one of those who make mischief on the earth and will find a painful punishment when they meet Allah if they do not repent.

As for the punishment in the hereafter for the fornicator and the one who called him/her to it, their affair is with Allah. The punishment can be forfeited if he/she sincerely repents to Allah. Repentance consists of leaving the sin, feeling remorse for having done it, and resolving to never go back to it. When this happens, repentance happens. According to a hadith, “The person who repents from a sin is like someone who has no sins.” In another hadith, “Every son of Adam is a sinner, and the best of the sinners are those who repent.”

Allah the Exalted has described the slaves of the Merciful in Surat al-Furqan as those who do not fornicate. He also says, “And whoever does this [fornication] shall receive the punishment…except those who repent and believe, and do righteous deeds, for those, Allah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” Let the sinner look at Allah’s magnificent mercy and grace. The Exalted did not stop at just forgiving the sin and overlooking it, He also changes the sin into good deeds for those whose repentance is sincere. So let every sinner among us hasten to repent.

Allah says in Surat al-Zumar, calling his sinful slaves to repent, “Say: O My slaves who have transgressed against themselves! Despair not of the mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”

In conclusion, this woman should not despair of Allah’s mercy.

If she has sincerely repented from this sin, she should think well of Allah that He will forgive her and change her bad deeds into good ones.

Amjad Rasheed

[Translated by Sr. Zaynab Ansari]

السؤال : لقد سمحت صديقتي لابنتها ( زينا ) بأن تُنجَب بصورة غير شرعية ، فكيف يُمكنها أن تطلب من الله أن يسامحها ، في حين هي لا تستطيع أن تسامح نفسها ؟ حدث هذا الخطأ مرةً واحدةً فقط ، وكان ذلك مع نفس الشخص الذي تزوَّجته لاحقاً ، لكن لا تزال صديقتي في ندم شديد , وأعتقد أن هذا الأمر يقتلها ؟ فأرجو النصيحة منكم بشدّة . الجواب : لا شكَّ أن الزنا حرامٌ وهو من الكبائر التي يلحق فاعلَها عقوبةٌ دنيوية وأخروية ، والداعي إلى الفاحشة آثم ولا شك . أما عقوبةُ الزاني الدنيويةُ ففيها تفصيلٌ بين المحصن وغيره ، فالزاني المحصنُ وهو من سبق له الوطءُ في عقدِ نكاحٍ صحيحٍ عقوبتُه الرجمُ حتى الموت ، أما غير المحصن فعقوبته جلدُ مئة وتغريبُ سنة كما في الحديث ، ولا يجوز لأحد أن يقيم حدَّ الزنا على الزاني إلا الإمام أو نائبه، ولا تثبتُ هذه الجريمةُ على الشخص إلا بإقراره أو بشهادة أربعة رجال عدول رأوا الوطءَ المحرَّمَ نفسَه لا مجرد مقدمات الزنا . والأولى بمن وقع في هذه المعصية أن يستر نفسه فلا يخبر بها أحداً ، بل لو أقرَّ الشخص على نفسه بالزنا وأراد الحاكم إقامة الحد عليه جاز للشخص أن يرجع عن إقراره فيقول لم أزنِ فلا يقام عليه الحد ، وهذا من رحمة الله بعبده وستره له . أما الداعي لفاحشة والمشجع عليها فلا يقام عليه الحدُّ المتقدم طالما لم يقع هو بالزنا لكنه ممن يسعى في الأرض فساداً فله عند الله عذاب أليم إن لم يتب . أما العقوبةُ الأخرويةُ للزاني ومن دعاه إلى ذلك فأمرُها إلى الله تعالى ، وتسقط بصدق توبته مع الله ، وتكون التوبةُ بالإقلاع عن الذنب والندم عليه والعزم على عدم العود له . فمتى حصل ذلك حصلت التوبة ، وفي الحديث :” التائبُ من الذنب كمن لا ذنب له “. وفي آخر: ” كلُّ ابن آدم خطاء ، وخيرُ الخطائين التوابون “. وقد وصف الله تعالى عبادَ الرحمن في سورة الفرقان من أنه لا يزنون ، ثم قال : ( ومن يفعل ذلك يلقَ أثاماً ، إلا من تاب وآمن وعمل عملاً صالحاً فأولئك يبدل الله سيئاتهم حسنات ، وكان الله غفوراً رحيماً ) فلينظر المذنبُ إلى عظيم رحمة الله وفضله فلم يكتفِ سبحانه بغفران الذنب والصفح عنه ، بل إنه يبدل ذلك حسناتٍ لمن صدقت توبته ، فليبادر كلُّ مذنب منا إلى التوبة . وقال تعالى في سورة الزمر داعياً عباده العصاة إلى التوبة : ( قل يا عبادي الذين أسرفوا على أنفسهم لا تقنطوا من رحمة الله ، إن الله يغفر الذنوب جميعاً ، إنه هو الغفور الرحيم ) والحاصل أنه لا ينبغي لهذه المرأة أن تقنط من رحمة الله ، فإن صدقت في توبتها من تلك المعصية فلتكن على حسن ظنٍّ بالله أنه سيغفر لها ويبدل سيئاتها حسنات .  

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