Q: I am really concerned. I need advice before leave without telling my husband. We have had an argument last night about leaving the kids by his ex-mother in law which he considers family. Is she family to him? He does not consider my mum family. His ex-mother in law barely practices Islam. On another occasion we had an argument. He said to me he can see I grew up wild, he insulted me I don’t know what a women is like and he says if there is no respect there nothing. He slept in the lounge and today we are not talking so what should I do? I was planing on leaving because he said there is nothing.
A: In a marital relationship each spouse needs to act responsible. Leaving one’s children in an environment not conducive to Imaan or detrimental to their Islamic values is not in keeping with the responsibility which you have been entrusted by Allah Ta’ala. If you are unable to explain to your husband then you should refer this matter to a pious senior Aalim, preferably a person who your husband has some contact with and ask him to explain to your husband his deeni responsibilities and obligations. Apart from the above, the wife is required to show utmost respect to her husband and obey him in all things provided it is not against the laws of Shariah.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)