Q: A daughter does not feel like respecting her parents due to their irresponsible nature. I am very sorry for the long email but I really need to know. If a father doesn’t give enough money for his wife and children to live, to study, for marriage, etc. and they have to beg by their relatives, will the father be sinful?
If the same father and his wife don’t want to get their son married because they think that they may get poor, because their son doesn’t have any income but the son is involved in a haraam relationship, in this case, will the parents be sinful?
The sister of that son is trying hard to arrange for her brother’s marriage, but their parents are not helping at all. Their mother is not interested anymore. That son is too lazy to do any work but his mother always supports all his negative activities from childhood. If the sister protests, mother becomes very angry with her.
The sister is giving huge amounts of money to her parents. The parents have no home, so she bought a home for them from her husband’s money. That’s why her husband is mostly rude to her. She was helpless, and it was necessity to buy a home for her parents. Her parents always want money from their daughter but her husband doesn’t want to give any more money.
In this case, what is the solution? Should she respect and support her mother even if her mother is not following any Islamic instructions?
Where her brother or mother are in need she should support them. She should not pay attention to their attitude.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
This answer was collected from MuftiOnline.co.za, where the questions have been answered by Mufti Zakaria Makada (Hafizahullah), who is currently a senior lecturer in the science of Hadith and Fiqh at Madrasah Ta’leemuddeen, Isipingo Beach, South Africa.