Undoubtedly, a lot of wasting takes place nowadays in banquets and marriage ceremonies. People also take pictures etc. in these such occasions. Wasting is one thing, but other than that there shouldn’t be any other sinful action, such as taking pictures, music, singing, mixing etc. But if these actions are taking place in a marriage ceremony and one’s parents are also compelling him to attend, and not attending will displease his relatives, then in that case can one act upon the words of Hakeemul-Ummat, Mufti Ashraf Ali Thanwi Saheb? When is Fatwa (verdict) given preference over one’s tawqa (piety)? Hakeemul-Ummat has mentioned “If one’s piety will cause distress to someone, then one should act upon Fatwa. In such occasions it is not permissible to safeguard one’s Taqwa. If one will be honored for not taking something while one’s brother’s honor is at stake, but one will be dishonored for taking it while one’s brother will be honored, then one should prefer the honor of his brother”
الجواب حامدا و مصلیا
If at any gathering, there will not be any of the sinful actions mentioned in the question, then one can attend it, especially if not attending can cause ties between relatives to be severed or problems between family members. This is the meaning of the mentioned words of Hakeemul-Ummat.