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This is in continuation to my question which was replied through “Fatwa ID: 18146 _ category: Marriage ( Nikah) Date: 28th July 2009”. need further clarification…

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This is in continuation to my question which was replied through “Fatwa ID: 18146 _ category: Marriage ( Nikah) Date: 28th July 2009”.

1) Is it ok as per Islam for a husband to live and sleep with his wife without having any love and affection for her? For I have been trying to do the best I can to be good to my wife.  I am giving her all the respect and rights but unable to love her by heart as I am unable to forget that she had cheated me for last 3 years.  She says she has realized her sin, but at the same time she also says she doesn’t feel that love and affection anymore towards me nor our children.  I am so confident now that she might be under some spell of black magic, for her attitude and behavior is very ungrateful towards me.  I am living a very compromised way of life without any happiness, to save her reputation in family and society and most important, my daughters future.  But my life is becoming miserable. Please tell me which surahs we should recite to get out of black magic spell, if any.

2) Also please confirm if our Nikah is still valid ? Reason is I was discussing about Surah Talaq with my mom, my wife interfered and asked me which Surah I was discussing, I told her “Talaq”… she got confused and might have took it the other way and asked me what did I say… and I again said don’t you hear properly… I am saying Talaq.  I seriously don’t remember If I uttered this word more then couple of times or not, but I had no intention of giving her divorce… it was discussion between me and my mom and she interfered.  Later I realized I said this word to my wife…  I prayed to ALLAH, that I had no intention of giving talaq to my wife it was just a discussion in which I told her these words….. and seeked HIS forgiveness for my unintentional fault…. Can we stay together as I seriously don’t remember how many times I said Talaq to her.

Answer

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

1) There are many issues to look at and consider in all that transpired.  This makes it is rather difficult to pass a ruling over the internet. What we can strongly advise is that you go for marriage counselling. If this does not work, then we suggest that you and your spouse go to a local scholar, let him hear both sides and he will advise you accordingly.

2) Your marriage is still intact and no divorce has taken place.

البحر الرائق – (3 / 278 دار المعرفة)

أما في الديانة فمحتاج إليها لكن وقوعه في القضاء بلا نية إنماهو بشرط أن يقصدها بالخطاب بدليل ما قالوا لو كرر مسائل الطلاق بحضرة زوجته ويقول أنت طالق ولا ينوي لا تطلق

 وفي متعلم يكتب ناقلا من كتاب رجل قال ثم يقف ويكتب امرأتي طالق وكما ( ( ( وكلما ) ) ) كتب قرن الكتابة باللفظ بقصد الحكاية لا يقع عليه

 وما في القنية امرأة كتبت أنت طالق ثم قالت لزوجها اقرأ علي فقرأ لا تطلق ا هـ

حاشية ابن عابدين – (3 / 250  سعيد)

 مطلب في قول البحر إن الصريح يحتاج في وقوعه ديانة إلى النية  قوله ( أو لم ينو شيئا ) لما مر أن الصريح لا يحتاج إلى النية ولكن لا بد في وقوعه قضاء وديانة من قصد إضافة لفظ الطلاق إليها عالما بمعناه ولم يصرفه إلى ما يحتمله كما أفاده في الفتح وحققه في النهر احترازا عما لو كرر مسائل الطلاق بحضرتها أو كتب ناقلا من كتاب امرأتي طالق مع التلفظ أو حكى يمين غيره فإنه لا يقع أصلا ما لم يقصد زوجته

And Allah knows best

Wassalaamu `alaykum

Ml. Ismail Moosa,
Student Darul Iftaa

Checked and Approved by:

Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In’aamiyyah

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