I have a very general question. I was recently fined AD$500 for not wearing a seatbelt. I felt very bad that i lost so much money due to my carelessness. I cried so much. Is it right of me to have done so?We should always believe in Allah, right?and not cry for such things? we shouldnt feel for all these things?
Also for other loses in my Life i also have a weak feeling in my heart. Am i doing wrong?What should i do?
Answer:
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
Feeling sad, being depressed and crying are all natural qualities of a human being. Each and every human being experiences these emotions despite knowing that Allah Taโala controls all affairs. Tears that come at the time of difficulty is not due to disbelief in Taqdeer (decree) of Almighty Allah, instead it is due to oneโs natural disposition and emotion.
The greatest of Allahโs creation, Rasululahุนููููุณูู ุตููุงููู, also becomes emotional at the demise of his grandchild.
ุนูุฃุณุงู ุฉุจูุฒูุฏุฃูุงุจูุฉูุฑุณููุงูููุตููุงูููุนููููุณูู ุฃุฑุณูุชุฅููููุฃูุงู ุนููุณุนุฏูุฃุญุณุจุฃุจูุงุฃูุงุจููุฃูุจูุชููุฏุญุถุฑูุงุดูุฏูุงูุฃุฑุณูููุฑุฆุงูุณูุงู ููุงููููููู ุงุฃุฎุฐูู ุงุฃุนุทููููุดูุกุนูุฏูุฅููุฃุฌููุฃุฑุณูุชุชูุณู ุนููููุฃุชุงูุงููุถุนุงูุตุจูููุญุฌุฑุฑุณููุงูููุตููุงูููุนููููุณูู ูููุณูุชูุนูุนููุงุถุชุนููุงุฑุณููุงูููุตููุงูููุนููููุณูู ููุงูููุณุนุฏู ุงูุฐุงูุงูุฅููุงุฑุญู ุฉูุถุนูุงุงููููููููุจู ููุดุงุกูุฅูู ุงูุฑุญู ุงูููู ูุนุจุงุฏูุงูุฑุญู ุงุก
Narrated from Usama bin Zaid ุฑุถูุงูููุนููthat the daughter of Rasululahุตููุงูููุนููููุณูู sent for him whilst I, Saโdุฑุถูุงูููุนููand I think Ubaiุฑุถูุงูููุนููwere with him. She said my son (or daughter) is indeed in the throes of death so hurry to us. (Rasululahุนููููุณูู ุตููุงููู) sent the messenger back, conveying Salaams to her and instructed her to say, โFor Allah is that which He takes and that which He gives and everything by Him has an appointed time.โ She sent a message back urging him to come. He comes to her and the child is placed in Rasululahโs ุนููููุณูู ุตููุงูููlap whilst he (the child) was breathing his last. Tears flowed from the eyes of Rasululahุนููููุณูู ุตููุงููู. So Saโdุฑุถูุงูููุนููsaid to him โwhat is this?โ He said โIndeed it is a Rahma (mercy) Allah places in the heart of whoever He wishes and definitely Allah has mercy on His servants who has mercy.โ (Abu Dawud)
Allah Taโala states in the Holy Quran:
ููููููุจููููููููููู ูุจูุดูููุกูู ูููุงููุฎูููููููุงููุฌููุนูููููููุตูู ูููุงููุฃูู ูููุงููููุงููุฃูููููุณูููุงูุซููู ูุฑูุงุชูููุจูุดููุฑูุงูุตููุงุจูุฑูููู
โAnd We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and loss of wealth and lives and fruit and give glad tidings to the patient.โ (Surah Baqarah v.155)
Therefore, you should not feel weak in your heart, always bear in mind that this is a test from Allah and experienced by all. And glad tidings are for those who are patient.
Also be cautious; try to abstain from those things that incur loss. We live in a world of Asbaab (means). That is, Allah has given us free will, the right to do as we please and has also laid down rules to be followed. As humans, for example, we either choose to share or be stingy; we choose to love or hate; we choose to give benefit or cause harm; we choose to do good or evil. Therefore, we should adopt such means which will benefit us, and protect ourselves from that which will cause harm. And at the same time, we should place our trust in Almighty Allah and not in the means we have adopted.
ุนูุนููุจูู ุงููุฃููุญุฏุซูู ุฃูุงููุจูุตููุงูููุนููููุณูู ูุถูุจููุฑุฌูููููุงูุงูู ูุถูุนููููู ุงุฃุฏุจุฑุญุณุจูุงูููููุนู ุงูููููููุงูุงููุจูุตููุงูููุนููููุณูู
ุฅูุงูููุนุฒูุฌููููู ุนููุงูุนุฌุฒููููุนูููุจุงูููุณูุฅูุบูุจูุฃู ุฑูููุญุณุจูุงูููููุนู ุงููููู
Narrated by Auf ibni Maalik, he said to them that Nabiุตููุงูููุนููููุณูู decided judicially between two men. The one who lost the case, when turning away said โAllah is sufficient for me and a good guardian.โ Nabi ุตููุงูููุนููููุณูู said โIndeed Allah will blame you for your incapability. Instead you should be intelligent! When a matter overpowers you; then says โAllah is sufficient for me and a good guardian.โ (Shuโbul Iman)
It is clear from the above example that we have to adopt means before placing our trust in Almighty Allah. Merely expecting things to happen in our favour without effort is inadequate. Therefore, we should always adopt the correct means to protect ourselves from losses and then place our trust in Allah Taโala.
And Allah knows best
Wassalamu Alaikum
Ml. Zakariyya bin Ahmed,
Student Darul Iftaa
Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah Inโaamiyyah
