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Can we have Nikah without parents knowing. But with the definite intention on telling them later. Because they will not agree marriage for another 1-2 yrs. What do we do about walima,witnesses,Wali.

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I was in a relationship with someone since I was 17 (seven years) who Alhumdullilah now has also embraced Islam. He is 24 years old like myself, and is not perceived by his family nor mine as being ‘financially secure or educated enough to get married. My mother ( father does not know anything about this situation) and his parents are quite happy with the idea of me marrying him. but they all want him to finish his education first, save enough money ( up to another year and half) and THEN think about marriage. We are very attached to each other and we have stopped seeing each other and spending time together, we do speak to each other regularly on the telephone. Unfortunately we are too weak to completely stop all correspondence. We feel that we cannot fully devote ourselves to Islam until we are married. We do not want our contact with each other going outside of the boundaries set by Shariah either emotionally or physically. For this reason, we have talked about having a nikkah without our parents knowing. I have a blood-brother who i think will be happy to act as my wali but rather not use him if possible. He is younger than me (20).I am hoping that inshALlah after 1-2 yrs.we can do another nikkah to please our families.. The question then is…. can we divorce each other in the future IF our parents completely oppose this wedding? of course divorce will be our very last option.. Also brother if we could get clarifiation on the walima,witnesees,Wali ect.

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Q: I am proposed to a girl. Our families want us to marry only next year.
Since we are seeing each other, can we perform a secret marriage to avoid
committing adultery and officially marry next year?
A: Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) advised, ‘Announce the Nikah.’
(Mishkaat pg.272; Qadeemi)
The wisdom behind the announcement is to avoid any misconception of an
illegal and illicit relationship between the boy and girl. Although the
first and secret marriage for the purpose of legalizing intimacy will be
valid, but we are also advised to abstain from doubt and disgrace. If the
Nikah is not announced, people witnessing the relationship will regard the
relationship as Haraam and illegal.
Furthermore, what if the girl conceives and gives birth before the official
‘second’ marriage? The negative factors surrounding that as well as the
child for the rest of his/her life are well known. Therefore, we advise that
if there is a dire need to fulfil one’s desires, the Nikah be expedited to
avoid the abovementioned negative factors of a secret marriage.

and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai
FATWA DEPT.

A Nikah is performed with a proposal (Iejaab) by the male or female and
acceptance (Qubool) by the male or female in the past and/or present tense
in the presence of two male Muslim witnesses (Hidaaya vol. 2).

It is Sunnat that the marriage be announced and performed in the Masjid and
the bride be represented by her Mahram (father, brother, etc.). The bride
gives consent to her representative (Wakeel) in the presence of two
witnesses to perform her marriage at the Masjid. At the Masjid, the Wakeel
represents the bride in the presence of the two witnesses who must be
trustworthy and pious male Muslims. They should not be from among the girls
ascendants e.g. father, etc. nor from her descendants, e.g. son, etc.

Having said that, if the sister (attained puberty) wishes to represent
herself at the time and place of Nikah, then she may do so without a Wakeel.
This is according to the Hanafi Madhab – according to Shaaf’ee permission is
incumbent.

A marriage without the two witnesses is not valid. the relationship will be
illegal and Haraam.

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