Asalaamulaykum, Now I am 16 years old, I have made many mistakes, I have had a relationship with a girl, Nothing sexual went on, We kept it clean, The most we ever accomplised was kissing, and that was once, I fell in love with her, At such a young age, She fell in love with me, We broke up because she felt guilty, she felt guilty because she could not tell the truth to her mom, enter the masjid with a horrible sin such as this. I respected her desicion and I had no choice but to agree with her departure, We stil talk, We still feel the same, I still love her, She still loves me, I am too young to marry, I respect her values, Her family, her heritage, and her most of all, I am trying to make a change, How do I get her off my mind? Is there a dua that I can read? I am trying brother, to make a change, I just need some guidance, Jazakallahu Khairun
Your zeal to change is commendable. For that, you require courage and
edication. Nothing can be achieved without that.
To associate with the opposite gender illegally is Haraam and detrimental to
one’s spirituality. In many instances, it leads to addiction. Many married
men don’t seem to be content with their wives. That is due to the bad habit
they adopted. One must suppress his desires against every evil. We advise
you terminate your relationship with the girl and have nothing to do with
her. Make sincere Tawbah for associating with her and make a firm intention
never to associate with any girl. Be punctual with your five times Salaat
with Jamaat. If there are pious people in your area, associate with them.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai