This is a topic no one likes to discuss or respond to.
I live in America, where the court has bypassed shariah law. if a woman living in America needs a khula, where can she go, to ask for help?Especially where the husband is not willing to reconcile nor let go. In such a case, how can one get khula without undermining the rules of shariah law.
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
If a couple experiences turbulence in the marriage, they should exhaust all possible avenues to address their differences. The bond of nikah should be respected and upheld to the best of one’s ability. The spouses should not resort to divorce immediately without exploring all possible avenues of reconciliation. Whilst divorce is permissible, it is frowned upon and resented.
Rasulullah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said,
«أَبْغَضُ الْحَلَالِ إِلَى اللَّهِ تَعَالَى الطَّلَاقُ»
Translation: “Of all the lawful acts, the most detestable to Allah is divorce.”[1]
If disputing couples are unable to reconcile to resolve their disputes by themselves, they should seek the intervention of appropriate and just family members to represent them and resolve their disputes. Allah Ta’ala says in the Quran,
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ شِقَاقَ بَيْنِهِمَا فَابْعَثُوا حَكَمًا مِنْ أَهْلِهِ وَحَكَمًا مِنْ أَهْلِهَا إِنْ يُرِيدَا إِصْلَاحًا يُوَفِّقِ اللَّهُ بَيْنَهُمَا ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا خَبِيرًا {35}
Translation: And if you fear dissension between the two, send an arbitrator from his people and an arbitrator from her people. If they both desire reconciliation, Allah will cause it between them. Indeed, Allah is ever Knowing and Acquainted (with all things).
If the husband is spiteful in withholding the divorce, the wife may offer to return her mahr in exchange of the divorce. This is called khula.
If the husband agrees, then the khula constitutes a talaq-e-baain (one irrevocable divorce).[2]
If the husband does not agree to a khula and the wife truly feels oppressed, she may refer to her local Ulama to annul (faskh) her marriage.
The Ulama will follow due procedure in doing so.
If there are valid grounds for the annulment of the marriage, they have the Shari’ee right to annul the marriage.
The annulment will be valid only if the correct procedures of annulment are followed.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Saad Haque
Student Darul Iftaa
New Jersey, USA
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
[1] سنن أبي داود ٢١٧٨
[2] الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي (2/ 261) – علي بن أبي بكر بن عبد الجليل الفرغاني المرغيناني، أبو الحسن برهان الدين (المتوفى: 593هـ) | دار احياء التراث العربي – بيروت – لبنان
وإذا تشاق الزوجان وخافا أن لا يقيما حدود الله فلا بأس بأن تفتدي نفسها منه بمال يخلعها به ” لقوله تعالى: {فَلا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا فِيمَا افْتَدَتْ بِهِ} [البقرة: 229] ” فإذا فعلا ذلك وقع بالخلع تطليقة بائنة ولزمها المال ” لقوله عليه الصلاة والسلام: ” الخلع تطليقة بائنة ” ولأنه يحتمل الطلاق حتى صار من الكنايات والواقع بالكنايات بائن إلا أن ذكر المال أغنى عن النية هنا ولأنها لا تسلم المال إلا لتسلم لها نفسها وذلك بالبينونة