asak,
i have always been having problems with my husbands family but recently my sister in laws husband wanted to have inappropriate relations with me. I did not respond to his gestures and my husband noticed my strange behavior towards him n asked me about it. I knew that nobody wold help me n believe me. alhamdulillah only my husband believed me. my saas is pestering my husband to let that man come home. My sister in law does come with her children. because i strongly opposed my saas wish she is poisoning my husbands mind which she always did n now its more. and thogh my husband still believes in my truth he pbbly wants to do what his mother wishes. for my own safety n i have a 10 year old daghter too i do not want that man to come home. when i was not in the country my husband went n had dinner with that man in his house. I obviously was devasteted. His behavior has changed and he thinks i hv not done enuff for him n his family and has threatened me tht i cld leave with the kids or take them with me. is he correct? All my in laws never believed me n called me names and thus made my life miserable. I stay in my house which my husband bought n my saas joined us 5 years back. I want my husband to stand firmly for his wife n children. he has been good to me n kids all these years only after all this happening he has turned this way. what do i do?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Sister in Islam,
We make Dua Allah grant you courage to overcome your challenges and grant you a happy and blissful marriage. Ameen
Your husband’s attitude is strange. While your husband believes you and is aware of the inappropriate conduct of his brother in law towards you, his threating attitude to leave you is surprising.
It is possible that he too has some complaints against you which you may be not be aware of. It is advisable to identify an appropriate person to intervene and discuss the issues in detail. That will avail your’ll the opportunity to understand each other better and make adjustments to facilitate each other. Together with this turn to Allah and make lots of duas and istighfaar. Also give out some sadaqah as sadaqah removes problems and hardships.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Huzaifah Deedat
Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
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