Husband not fulfilling the needs of the wife

Q: I want to clear my confusion about certain issues of my married life. I have recently married. Before my marriage I was doing a graceful job. The reason for working was to eliminate my dependency on my parents and to support my studies which I did side by side of my job. Soon after my education completion my parents associated me with one of my family cousins in family. At the time of engagement the boy and his family were fully aware that I am a working lady. The mean time when we remained engaged they did not cleared the stance weather I will continue my job after marriage on not. After marriage my husband went to Saudi Arabia for job and left me here and we agreed that meantime he completes the formalities and documentation from Saudi Arabia, I shall carry on my job. Its been 6 months that we got married my husband did not care for my nafaqah and whenever I claim he tells me that I am earning money and he has some other things to spend on and refuses to pay or even becomes angry and threatens me with divorce. He forces me to spend my earnings on his brother’s family and have taken huge amounts for his degree fees too. I was doing all of it for him thinking in my mind that soon I’ll move to Saudi Arabia soon. But I have realised that he does not acknowledge my efforts and contribution I made. At the end of the day he says I have not done anything for him and he don’t need my job and forces me to resign immediately. I am in a fix if I would stop working he will not pay me anything. How will I survive? I cannot ask my parents to support me. If I don’t quit my job he threatens me off and on during quarrel on some other things to resign immediately. Please guide me in the light of Islam about my rights and obligations.


A: I suggest that since this person does not have the slightest understanding of the true meaning of being a husband and what are his duties and obligations, and he is bent upon zulm, the appropriate thing for you is to ask for a separation.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

وإذا تشاق الزوجان وخافا أن لا يقيما حدود الله فلا بأس بأن تفتدي نفسها منه بمال يخلعها به لقوله تعالى { فلا جناح عليهما فيما افتدت به } فإذا فعلا ذلك وقع بالخلع تطليقة بائنة ولزمها المال لقوله عليه الصلاة والسلام الخلع تطليقة بائنة. (الهداية 2/404)

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)