How to stay away from zina
Dear sir Assalamualaikum, i pray almost 5 times prayer everyday.i always make people understand that zina and other sins are strongly prohibited by Allah. But i dont understamd how could i commited zina last 2 months 6-7 times.i always afraid the punishment of Allah.i controlled myself many times from doing sins.but at that time i could not control myself.after commiting zina i repent myself and cried after prayers but still i m afraid if i do this again Allah wont forgive me even i dont know allah will forgive me or not for those i already committed…i commit zina with my sister in low.my brother lives out of this country .in my home i and sister in low and parents live.my sister in low almost every time talk with me about sex and comes in front of me like nude girl. I cant tell anyone about this.i dont know how to get rid of zina?
How to get forgivness from Allah?
How can i purify myself?
Have any dua for getting closer of Allah and not to commit zina again?
I know the punishment of Allah is too dangerous for this sin. Please help me and pray for me.i also pray for you that Allah make your life happy and peaceful in duniya and hereafter
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Wa ‘alaikum as-salam wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
It is pleasing to note that you perform your five daily Salah. It is also encouraging to note that you are aware that zina is prohibited and you inform others about the prohibition of zina. It is sad and unfortunate that you got caught up in the sin of zina. However, your regret and remorse is a sign of your Iman. The mere knowledge of the prohibition of zina is not enough. It is more important to abstain from all the means that lead to zina. It is precisely for that reason Shariah prohibits free and open interaction between ghair mahram males and females. It is for that reason Allah orders males to lower their gazes in front of females and females to lower their gazes in front of males. Allah says:
قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَزْكَىٰ لَهُمْ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ
وَقُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا ۖ وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَىٰ جُيُوبِهِنَّ ۖ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَىٰ عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ ۖ وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِنْ زِينَتِهِنَّ
Translation: Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.
And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husband’s sons, their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful. (Quran 24:30-31)
The logic behind such prohibitions is clear. It is human nature to have feelings and be attracted to the opposite gender. A male gets attracted to the form, shape, color, and other feminine qualities of a female. Likewise, a female gets attracted to the masculine qualities of a male. When butter is placed next to the fire, it melts. When a male and female sit next to each other, it is natural for him to melt.
We understand you are not married. Your sister in law lives in the same house. Her husband is away. It is natural for her to have a yearning for her husband, hence her inappropriate conduct towards you. Your reciprocating attitude towards her was also incorrect. You know she is a married woman. Moreover, she is your brother’s wife and amanat (trust) in your house. You had taken advantage of her vulnerable nature to satisfy yourself instead of understanding and avoiding her inappropriate conduct and preserving your brothers amanat. It is unfortunate that you had betrayed your brothers trust. Nevertheless, you regret your wrong. Make sincere tawba and avoid any contact with your sister in law.
In the meanwhile, we advise you to move out of the house and live elsewhere. This suggestion may not be easy to follow. However, you have to make sacrifices to avoid the heinous sin of zina and the sin of betraying the trust of your brother. If you are sincere in your tawba and you adopt all possible means to avoid repeating the sin of zina, Allah will assist you and open many doors of ease for you. Allah says:
وَمَنْ يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَلْ لَهُ مَخْرَجًا
وَيَرْزُقْهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لَا يَحْتَسِبُ ۚ وَمَنْ يَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ فَهُوَ حَسْبُهُ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ بَالِغُ أَمْرِهِ ۚ قَدْ جَعَلَ اللَّهُ لِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدْرًا
Translation: And whoever fears Allah – He will make for him a way out.
And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah – then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a (decreed) extent. (Quran 65:2-3)
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Student Darul Iftaa
New Jersey, USA
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.