Answered by Ustadha Shazia
Question:
When it comes to marriage, and I see fatwas, I always see a huge imbalance. When it comes to the wife, I always see terms like “a wife is like a prisoner or a slave to her husband, “cursed by the angels or cursed be the maidens of Paradise, “or “will go to hell if she falls short, “but when it comes to the husband I see words like “superior, “greater rights, “or “must always be obeyed and respected. “I have never seen hadiths about the husband getting punished; why is there none? It seems that the wife is not important.
Answer:
Assalamu alaykum,
Thank you for your question. The absolute best answer that I can give you, in detail, about your concern is here:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/im-fearful-islam-causing-depression-can/
No regard for women
The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) gave women much respect and importance, and Islam was known to have given women rights that were never heard of before. Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be well pleased with him, said, “We used to have no regard for women… “and their position was revolutionized with the advent of Islam.
A trust
Women are a trust for men, and they will be fully responsible for their treatment of them. Any man that fears God should fear his accounting on Judgment Day. Abuse of any kind is prohibited, demeaning one’s wife is prohibited, and neglecting her rights is prohibited. Please see more details below:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/wifes-responsibilities-and-rights-difficult-marriage/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/islam-say-neglect-wifes-sexual-rights/
May Allah give you the best of this world and the next and bless you with a pious spouse.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.