Question:
Is calling off a nikah permissible after choosing a date due to discontentment and lack of love?
Answer:
Assalamu alaykum,
Thank you for your question.
Istikhara
It is permissible to call off a nikah, anytime before the wedding, but feelings are very delicate at this time. Pray istikhara always before committing to this big decision, and use the Prophetic standards for choosing a spouse. If you are still unsure, pray istikhara again before finalizing your decision. See the following links to help you take the right steps:
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/marriage-and-divorce/look-marrying-somone-deen/
https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/important-traits-to-look-for-in-a-prospective-spouse/
Lack of Love
Not feeling love is not really a reason for walking away from a wedding because Allah puts love in the hearts of the couple after a wedding takes place. Before the wedding, you simply base your decision on her beauty, family, wealth, and most importantly, her religion. You should sit and talk with her some in order to learn about her personality, and if you still have a bad feeling, especially after your istikhara, you should leave now before you break her heart any further. May Allah give you the best of this world and the next and bless your union with whomever it may be.
Please See:
https://dev.seekersguidance.org/answers/marriage-and-divorce/can-stop-engagement-unsure/
[Ustadh] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.