Asalam Alaikum Mufti Sahab,
I sent the email below yesterday but realized this morning that I need to make a correction. The issue is about my husband taking a false oath by putting hand on Quran. In reality, I noticed this morning, that on top of the Quran, there was a Panj Surah book, and on top of that there was a dua book. His hand was actually on the dua book and not on the Quran (Alhamdullilah!). Though my husband did mention with his tongue that he is putting hand on Quran but probably didn’t realize that his hand wasn’t actually on Quran.
If he repents and seeks Allah’s forgiveness and mercy, will he be forgiven? Should I resume my marital contact with him? I don’t know if he will or not, but I really, really hope that he does. Please make dua IA IA
He does have mental health disorders as mentioned in the email below. He has no control over his emotions and obsessive behavior. He has depression, stress, anxiety and bipolar disorders for which he is also taking medication.
Please guide me if it is wise to live with a husband who is ready to use Quran to prove his lie as truth? Hazrat Asiya RA did sabar and lived with Firaun who did shirk. Is this permissible to live with a man who is like my husband and is there reward/sawaab in this?
Can you please also make dua that he doesn’t attack my character and chastity, he has done that few times and it makes me feel HORRIBLE and very angry, crushes my heart into pieces… Please guide me and make dua for me always. May Allah swt guide him and make him one of the BEST Muslims of this era, IA IA
The older version of my email is below:
I wanted to inquire about a marital issue. My husband has told a lie over a small issue regarding a third person my sister. He keeps saying that my sister has asked us to leave my parents house and don’t live there anymore, which my sister has not. I clarified in front of my sister and mom that my sister didn’t say that. He then started saying if she didn’t say that, then I (the wife) made this all up and said to husband 3 times in one month that sister is saying that.
He kept accusing me and while I tried to persuade him to admit his lie, he sworn upon Allah, put hand on Quran, swore upon his parents and said I wouldn’t be a Muslim if I was lying. I want to know if my nikah is still valid and what should I do now? He takes anti-anxiety pills and per the psychologist he has bipolar mental health issues. He is under a LOT of stress because of not being able to find a job for 3 months, a BIG exam in 3 months, and being a dependent of the wife since I am working and providing. He has no knowledge of deen and doesn’t understand the importance/consequences of anything.
Please guide me. Is he still a Muslim? Is he still my husband? What should I do next?
الجواب وبالله التوفيق
As per the description of your question and the details provided regarding the method to swear, there has been no effect on his faith or the Nikah. However, if the husband did swear falsely and that too by putting his hand on the Quran, then it is considered an action of severe audacity, recklessness and sinfulness.
It is desired from men and women to be patient during the period of trials and tribulations and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta‘alahas promised of His blessings for people who succeed through this period. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta‘ala help make your married life serene and full of peace and bestow his fazalupon you aameen.
واللہ اعلم بالصواب