I am married for 14 years and have a son 10-year-old son with this marriage. My husband is a reverted Muslim. We got married Islamic court in presence of my father and brother. He only does Fridays prayer and doesn’t eat haram foods. I always had problems with him not praying five times a day and not following Islam the way he is supposed to follow but I didn’t take it very seriously since he was claiming he is Muslim and always lazy to pray at home/go masjid.
He was always talking to his old friends who were girls but didn’t have physical relationships with any as far as I know and as he claims.
Since six years ago he started working as a handyman to a divorced, Christian-Indian woman’s house and helping her with her parents, son and whatever she needed help with at home or outside. I have seen a lot of changes in his nature during this period. I have seen him talking/text to her and keeping his phone password controlled so I don’t see his messages. I started having doubt that he is having something more than just work relations and I found out that he proposed her to be his girlfriend and told her that he doesn’t believe in the Muslim faith.
But to me, he says that he is still a Muslim. He does not know that I have recorded his conversation while he was talking to that woman and I know what he told her about his faith. Now I want to find out if my Marriage is valid or not because he said this to someone else on phone, not to me. I am really confused and don’t know if I am doing Haram by living with him. Just to let you know we are in Nikah by Islamic sharia but not married legally on papers by US law.
I am trying to keep him away from me with so many excuses, but it will not work for a long time and I will have to talk to him. Please guide me as soon as possible because I have lost my peace and not sure what to call this relationship.
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Please present all details and the recordings you have made to any Darul Ifta or in front of Ahl e Haq Ulama and follow the Shar’ai guidance they provide you.
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