Firstly, a woman should not go out looking for her own marriage partner, in which she gets entangled in such situations. these things are best left to the parents who know about compatibility and suitability issues due to their experience.
It would not be regarded as racism, but rather looking for the best interests of the child. A person should not be entangles in a love situation like this in the first place.
Nobody is tellin the sisters to delay their marriages. Rather, if a suitable match is present under the rulings of Kafaa’at, then she should proceed with the permission of her parents to marry such a person.
The situation in the UK has become disgusting in which young boys and girls set out looking for their own partners, and get entangled in illicit and Haraam relationships, and then face difficulties intrying to earn their parents blessings. Everything is good if the timing and situation is correct. It is not the individuals responsibility to start doing this at their workplace or at university, free-mixing, looking for their own marriage partners.
This has becomes a very sad situation as it may be seen at many universities, in which so called practising Muslim sisters with Hijaabs, and brothers with beards, free mix, sit and eat together, and socialize, thinking there exists no ill thought. But Shaytaan takes full advantage of this situation and then matters become worst.
May Allah save us from all the fitnah.
Mufti Yaseen Shaikh