assalmoalaikum mufti sahab i want to ask aquestion about harmate musaherat . my son 16 year old was going to s. africa for alim course first time leaving us and was crying very much and was sad also and as a mother i was also crying and was too sad as a mother i kissed him on his cheek to have him stop to cry as mamta is my nikkah valid plz let me know iam very confused it was just as a mom and son relation
In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salaamu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullaahi wa-barakaatuh.
Sister in Islaam,
We make du’aa that Allaah Ta’aala accepts your son for the service of His Deen and that He makes your son a beacon of guidance. Aameen. Indeed, it is a great sacrifice for a mother and son to part from each other. The reward for such sacrifice and pain is also great. Consider the following Hadith:
سبعة يظلهم الله في ظله يوم لا ظل إلا ظله ……. ورجلان تحابا في الله اجتمعا عليه وتفرقا عليه[1]
Translation: “There will be seven categories of people whom Allaah will shade under His Shade on the day where there will be no shade save His shade: (one of them is) two people who love one another for the sake of Allaah; they meet each other for His Love and depart one another for His Love.” (Bukhaari 660)
The relationship between the mother and child is natural and more than the love two people inculcate.
Hurmah musaaharah takes place when a man and a woman lustfully touch each other without any clothing or barrier with shahwah[2].
In the enquired situation, the kiss and touch was of a motherly nature. It was a motherly expression of love and affection. Hurmah musaaharah does not take place in such a situation.
And Allaah Ta’aala Knows Best.
Muajul I. Chowdhury
Student, Darul Iftaa
Astoria, New York, USA
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
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[1] صحيح البخاري (1/ 133)
660 – حدثنا محمد بن بشار بندار، قال: حدثنا يحيى، عن عبيد الله، قال: حدثني خبيب بن عبد الرحمن، عن حفص بن عاصم، عن أبي هريرة، عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: ” سبعة يظلهم الله في ظله، يوم لا ظل إلا ظله: الإمام العادل، وشاب نشأ في عبادة ربه، ورجل قلبه معلق في المساجد، ورجلان تحابا في الله اجتمعا عليه وتفرقا عليه، ورجل طلبته امرأة ذات منصب وجمال، فقال: إني أخاف الله، ورجل تصدق، أخفى حتى لا تعلم شماله ما تنفق يمينه، ورجل ذكر الله خاليا ففاضت عيناه “
[2] You may refer to #16499 link for further details on hurmah musaaharah۔