Q: I had a question regarding a female being chaste or being pure. If a girl has a haraam relationship with a ghair mehram, and they commit sexual acts like fondling, and all kinds of touching besides sexual intercourse, is she still considered a chaste female? Is she still paak daaman? The girl regrets the relationship she’s in so much, and she makes sure not to do it again, can she still be forgiven? Or will she be placed in a category like zina? Also, she’s trying to end the relationship with the guy completely, but he is saying that they should cut communication till they can talk to each other’s parents about marriage. The girl and guy are from different cultures, both Muslim, but the girl is scared about the parents not being too open-minded. Should the girl end the relationship completely with the guy and marry the one her parents want later on? Or keep the relationship, and see what happens in the future?
Q: If she sincerely makes taubah then insha-Allah she may have the virtue of a chaste woman.
If she maintains any type of relationship with this person then she can never be called paak daaman. She will be called a be-hayaa, gandi be-sharam aurat.
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)