Q: I have this problem that has been bothering me for over 4 months now. I don’t know what to do.
People tell me to pray and you will forget about it. But it is very difficult and I feel like no one understands me.
I used to work last year September till November so I worked only for 2 months. Within that 2 months my manager (who is 30 and I’m 19) has always supported me, and was there for me. We both grew a trusting relationship where we told eachother everything. Even when it came to talking about our illnesses and family problems with eachother. Bear in mind that he is a divorcee and married again. He has been there to support me and when no one understood me, his the only one that did.
Since I left my job, I feel like I’m going mental because I can’t stop thinking about him. He told me about his illness so I gave him a Quran speaker, so hearing recitation keeps him calm. I cannot go through a single prayer without making dua for him. I can’t sleep at night but worry if his okay, 24/7 (I mean 24/7) I think about him and question myself “is he ok” and pray to Allah to keep him safe and happy.
I know that I have no affection towards him. And I know myself that I am not allowing Shaytaan to play with my head. It’s a Muslim sister worrying about her brother. I finished a Quran khatam for him, and I call up my store using a private number so when I hear his voice I know his safe and ok.
It’s been 4 months and I still can’t forget about him. I really don’t know what to do it’s very difficult and I really need help!
And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)